AAAARRRRGGGHHHHHHHHH!!!! Going To Kill Them All!!!

[magnolia1]

All 4 of them

To be honest I have just about had enough of being a parent

DD1 is 10 and thinks she can 'parent' the younger ones! I am so sick of listening to her talk to them like a bit of shit and the worse thing is where does she get it from? (Has to be me surely)

The twins are 6 and have just gone into year 1. One of them is the wingiest thing going who has tantrums like a 2 year old and the other is like a really nasty bully both at home and at school. She seems to have this idea that it's ok to be nasty and hurt other kids when something happens that she doesn't like!! Have spoke to the school nurse who says ignore the bad and praise the good.

FFS at the moment she is being naughty 95% of the time and only good when she's asleep

DD4 is 2 and ok I know she at 'that age' but with the other 3 it's so hard coping with her tantrums.

Dh says I am to hard on them, the school nurse says do a sticker chart and praise, praise , praise!!! My mum says it will get better

WHEN?????

Sorry ladies need to vent this morning instead of screaming at them

My 11 year old ds is exactly the same. Especially in the morning because he hates to be late for school, (and by late he means not being 10 minutes early), so he shouts at them to hurry up, and can be quite bossy and mean to them at other times. it's probably just an eldest child thing. I do punish him when he's mean to them though.

And i could write a book on how the other 4 behave....... so if it's any consolation you can think of me in the mornings with ds shouting at us all to hurry, dd crying about her hair, ds2 lying about brushing his teeth, ds3 pretending to be a power ranger and kicking ds4 who cries and then hits back.

It's hard going isn't it!

I've started the thread about ds1 who's 7 controlling our house, sounds like you have the same X4!!

My mum always says it's a phase they all go through.........are we related

Try the good old pasta jar? You can punish them with a pasta jar (I don't hold with the "ignore the bad" stuff, I like revenge )

So with the pasta jar do you start with some in to take out when naughty or put some in when they are good?

both magnolia - let me find you a thread on pasta jars....

Here you go, lots of advice on my thread here including link to a pasta jar thread.

The pasta jar is a great idea. My DS2 (4) is driving me crazy - he'll apologise happily and, apparently, sincerely, for whatever revolting thing he's done, but I know he just does it to shut me up and he does exactly the same thing again v soon afterwards. It might help to have a different kind of "routine" to deal with bad behaviour.

We started our day with DS1 (5) and DS2 winding each other up (again) about who would sit where for breakfast, who had the bigger bowl of cereal. Then they started being over-enthusiastic with DD (10 weeks) and after I had finished telling them how disappointed I was and left the room, DS2 said to DS1 that he thought it was all really funny.

DS2 especially really knows how to push my buttons. If I threaten something he says "great, I love that" and actually pretends he does if follow through! He got it from DH - when a teacher smacked DH when he was little, apparently DH turned round and said "is that the best you can do?"

Grrrr...

Anyway, feel better for venting!

Miaou, thanks for the link hun

Will be getting 2 jars and tons of pasta to start on Saturday!!

What will work with a 10 year old though?? Can't imagine she would give a hoot about pasta