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PLease tell me I'm not the only one to get exasperated....

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QueenOfQuotes · 27/09/2005 20:06

at their reception age child????

Started a thread a few weeks back about DS1's 'reading' (which in actual fact was memorisation of what each page said, tied together with pointing to each block of letters in the right order).

This has been continuing, but I've been doing my best to sit down and 'read' the books with him, and help him when he's 'fogotten' what they say.

Sat down with him tonight to read the book (and I confess I've not managed to for a couple of days) I honestly felt like banging my head against a brick wall. He knows that a sister is a girl, and that a brother is a boy (he knew that a year ago!). But when I tried to help him with the "this is my brother and dad" page - which had a picture of the dad, and a little boy.... - he just didn't "get it". Kept saying sister, despite the fact I said "br" to help him...

Before anyone says it I know he's only just learning, but it drives me up the wall the way he acts so daft (sorry couldn't think of the "pc" word) when I'm helping him with stuff. When DS2's godmother was round last week he was really "clever" at doing it (with her help) and when DH sits down with him (when he's not working evenings) he also does really well for him. But for me - he just doesn't do it at all .

I eventually had to just say "we'll do some more tomorrow" and put the book away, as I was getting so stressed over it. He then proceeded to throw a strop when I asked him to tidy the rest of the toys away.

He's now in bed, and I've got the oven on to make some cakes....so, although I no longer feel like it, I'm going to have to make some or I'll have wasted the electricity.

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aloha · 27/09/2005 23:08

Oh, and I think we project stuff on our kids & catastrophise - like, if they don't do this (fairly minor thing) this means there is something wrong with them, and that means they will fail at school and everyone will laugh at them and they will be social outcasts and end up living in a cardboard box, rocking to and fro and gibbering and their life will be ruined, and then you feel horribly frightened and anxious and produce a ton of adrenaline and this will produce surges of aggression and you feel horribly, inappropriately angry etc.
But it's never anything like that important.
Or is that just me?

aloha · 27/09/2005 23:10

QoQ, yes, it's like when I ask my dh to help me with my computer... but the minute he does, I throw a complete tantrum because I hate hate hate him teaching me anything!! I want him to sort the computer, I love his company but there is something about his telling me how to do something that makes me go off pop! I think that's why husbands/dads etc should never teach you to drive!

nightowl · 28/09/2005 01:43

i have to admit...i get really annoyed with ds almost every time we do his homework. ive thrown it down in frustration before now. i shouldnt, because he does have some problems...but im not sure if he plays on that. shortly after we start, he starts figeting, licking his hands, pulling at his teeth, lying all over the page etc etc. it makes me mad because i know he can do it. his reading has come on really well in the last year, he reads enough things on the tv screen! it makes me feel like a bad mother but when im trying to watch dd at the same time it frazzles my nerves completely.

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vicimelly · 28/09/2005 02:14

I am so relieved to read this thread!! I really thought I was the only evil mum who got so worked up trying to read with a 4yr old who can read yet somehow becomes a wriggling, silly, uncooperative fiend, who for some unfathomable reason spends 10 minutes continuously spelling out a word that you know they can read!! grrrrrrr
Can you tell I was reading with dd earlier!! lol

Caligula · 28/09/2005 10:47

This is yet another reason why I object to homework so young. Aloha, you're absolutely right and have put your finger on something I've felt uneasy about for ages - I sit there thinking "if I wanted to be a teacher, I'd have been one" - I don't want to muddy that role with my child.

But school is telling me that if I don't, I'm a bad, unsupportive parent. Which adds to the stress and tension.

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