I can't wait for the day when my son realises how much I love him

[ItalianLady]

and how hard it is to be a parent and to try and get it right and not always do so.

when do you reckon that day will come? dds are 10 and 8 and clueless

You might have to wait until he is a parent himself to really get it.

If he ever has his own child he may come to realise how much you love him. I wouldn't hold my breath until then if I were you.

Don't think they get how hard it is until they are parents themselves. I didn't realise that's for sure!

I think they realise pretty early on how much you love them though - that is why they can push the boundaries with you and they know you will always forgive them. They don't try it on in the same way with anybody else because they don't have that certainty. Works the other way too. You can screw up and they will still love and forgive you too.

Oh I know he won't get it until he is a parent himself but it really hurts if I ask them if they know how much I love them and they say no . I tell them every day at least twice, even when they are being very challenging tricky.

He told me tonight he didn't have to do as he was told.

Oh IL, he will feel your love even if he doesn't understand it or appreciate it right now. It all goes in and will go toward helping them become happy, secure and lovely individuals who know how to love and be loved :)

How old are your DC ItalianLady?

Sounds to me like your DS is playing you up a bit. He knows what you want to hear and is being difficult about saying it. Don't take it personally. He knows or he wouldn't say such things, he wouldn't dare.

He is 9, the other naughty one is 7.

I should be used to their answering back and rudeness by now.

Last night my DS (6) said to me that he wanted to tell me how much he loved me but he couldn't because it was too much to explain, more than infinity times infinity. He said he couldn't find the right words but really wanted me to know.
I told him I understood exactly as it's the same as the way I love him - he does understand how much he is loved.
He won't understand the rest of it until he is a parent, I didn't.

I am lucky in a way, I have an 8yo with Aspergers who is very methodical and super-logical in his understanding of everything

he talks about our love for each other in a matter-of-fact way, just as he discusses homework or Christmas presents - for him it is a real, present thing and he says the most amazing things

I have a note from him pinned to my monitor, it says:

"dear mummy, to me you shine down like the sun even on grey days so even when your cross we love you so much, because you are our mummy and we are your boys"

he takes my breath away

That's brought a tear to my eyes, disgustedbythisman...

That is so simple and so utterly lovely.

wow, that's made me cry too - what a beautiful thought and so wonderfully put.

aw, thanks

he is a sweetie

I think they all love us like that though, mine just has verbal diarrhoea

sorry, changed from other name wich was for a particular thread

That's lovely expecting...

But to the OP - I wouldn't count on it, I find it hard to believe my parents love(d) me as much as I love my DSs, I don't think we ever quite get it.