How much does your DP/H take the kids on his own, at weekends etc?

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Just wanted some opinions on this really, as seems to vary massively. I remember one friend who's DH had had their 2 year old DS on his own for just 2 hours in the entire 2 years.

Was shocked, but now that our DS is just turning 3, I've realised that there have been very few occasions when my DH has taken DS on his own. Haven't had a girly shopping trip/day out ever.

DH always says that as he works late in the week, he wants to spend the weekends together as a family, which I do understand, but I'm not sure if I'm being unreasonable by asking him to take DS out for the morning so I can have a lie-in etc.

What do the MN's think?

my DH is a SAHD so I can not comment for him but I would say that I do look after the kids at weekends so he can play football etc .. but most of the time we are together as a family as I miss that when I am at work.. we alternate lie ins -- can you not do that?

my dp is brill. frequently takes all three kids out for 2 or 3 hours (ds1 & 2 are his stepkids which makes it more lovely). they are all perfectly happy in each others company and he copes fine, he does have to be out of the house with them tho.

it is perfectly reasonable for him to get up and take ds out, return later when you have had some me time and you can then go out.

My DP took our two out on his own for the first time yesterday (first time since DS was born in April - he used to take DD out on his own at least once a fortnight to feed the ducks!)

It was only because i was laid up in bed with this nasty cold but still! He likes to do things together as a family too though. Plus its difficult with DS as i am still b/feding him

From the time dd was about 2 months old, dh has had her on a Saturday morning. To start with it was just for half an hour, and gradually it got longer. I still have time out most Saturday mornings, generally for two or three hours. I would never have stayed sane without time away from her.

my dh will happily take dd out anytime but he's still yet to give taking both dd and 16wk ds out on his own, a go.

no regular arrangment with DH - more a case of as and when I have something on, but I would say at least fortnightly for a few hours on average.

i take my kids to see their dad each weekend. does that count?

my dp is also a SAHD. we alternate lie-ins atm tho quite often dd doesnt wake till 8 if she doesnt hear me getting up which is quite nice. We do tend to do things as a family at the weekends tho which I like as its a chance to be with both dd and dp. If dp wnats time to himself Ill let him tho and I think your dp needs to appreciate that you also need this once in a while too.

DH has DS one day every weekend, when I'm at work. When I worked a late shift, he used to have him from when he got home from work until midnight by himself too - this is from when DS was 6mo.

DH is fantastic with DS - I could not ask for a better father for our son.

Thanks all!

DH loves being with DS, but I think he's never really sure what to do with him, and also he's a bit of a mummy's boy, so I think he feels sad if DS gets upset and misses me - he doesn't want to be associated with taking him away from his Mummy. At the moment, the big treat is going in Daddy's car, which they do some weekends, so maybe I'll encourage that one.

To be fair, I'm actually forgetting times when they have been out together - think it just seems like ages ago! But still, all good for daddy-son relationships, right? It needs to be encouraged !

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