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Bathing children together

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PrettyCandles · 22/09/2005 14:57

Until what age would you bath different-sex siblings together? And what about visiting friends, would you put them in the same bath?

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Blossomhill · 22/09/2005 14:58

My ds (7) and dd (6) still bath together. Although I know it prob. won't happen for much longer.

tarantula · 22/09/2005 15:01

till they feel akward about it I guess. some kids are more aware of things than others. Eg dss only started thinking about things like that when he got to 12 or so whereas his cousins were much more body consious at a younger age.

With visitig friends Id be guided by what their parents say really.

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PrettyCandles · 22/09/2005 15:03

So effectively you'd leave it to the children to decide, just keep going as long as everyone feels comfortable with it?

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colditz · 22/09/2005 15:03

The oldest one will inform you, loudly and at length, when they don't want to bathe with the younger one.

i was 9 when I put my foot down with my mother, and I wasn't the type to put my foot down much. Not that you would guess that now.

colditz · 22/09/2005 15:04

personally wouldn't bath school age non related children together.

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PrettyCandles · 22/09/2005 15:06

Not even same-sex, colditz? (And, no, I wouldn't quite place you as a shy and retiring individual )

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colditz · 22/09/2005 15:08

yes i would same sex if they wanted to. I meant opposite sex kids.

girrafey · 22/09/2005 15:14

i was told it was illegal for oppisite sex over the age of 5 if not brother and sister and 8 when brother and sister.
not sure how reliable source was though!!!
but law advises that bro and sis shouldnt share room over 8.
hth

Tortington · 22/09/2005 15:17

about 7

Caligula · 22/09/2005 15:34

I'd leave it up to the kids - unless of course, they were both hairy adolescents!

tarantula · 22/09/2005 15:45

there is no LAW on kids sharing rooms at any age. Thats just council guidlines for housing.

Dss (when hes with us) and dd share a room. Hes 13 shes 20 mnths. Its not ideal but tough we only have two rooms

tarantula · 22/09/2005 16:16

killed that one havent I again

FeelingOld · 22/09/2005 16:36

my dd is 10 and ds is 5 and they still go in the bath together sometimes. dd sometimes wants to go in on her own, not cos she is embarassed but cos she wants some peace.

sunnydelight · 22/09/2005 18:11

As long as the kids are happy with it. DS1 would happily share a bath with his younger brother until he started secondary school and now has a shower every morning. DS2(6) goes in with DD(2). I wouldn't bath anybody else's children without a parent present - I know too many social workers!

Kelly1978 · 22/09/2005 18:23

i had a friend who had ds 8, d 6 nad ds 4, and they all used to bath together, but she would make her dd and ds keep their underwear on. I thougt that was wierd.

I'll keep goin with mine, til the dts are old enough to bath with ds, then prob let dd bath seperately.

Nemo1977 · 22/09/2005 18:32

Am I prudish???? I wouldnt bath non related kids at all, if they were visiting then they would go without bath for the night.

WestCountryLass · 22/09/2005 21:17

Quite often bathe non-related kids together, not a problem if the parents and children don't mind Mine are 4 and 14 months.

hatstand · 22/09/2005 21:30

we bath non-related kids together (when we bother to bath at all, that is)

ghosty · 22/09/2005 21:52

I don't understand why people have a problem with bathing non related kids together ...
[puzzled emoticon]
I will bath my two together (DS is nearly 6, DD is 19 months) for as long as they are happy with it. DS gets to stay in for a longer 'soak' after I get DD out.
I bathed with my siblings (there were 4 of us in total) until I was about 5 or 6 and I was the youngest.

Nemo1977 · 22/09/2005 22:00

non related kids????? Maybe I am over sensitive due to being abused but I would not want one of ds friends parents to bathe him if he was staying over and I wouldnt feel comfortable bathing someone elses child without them present. My husband feels the same about it aswell.

Nemo1977 · 22/09/2005 22:02

meant to add its not the actual kids being together that worries me it is the unknown adult bathing them if that makes sense.

Rhubarb · 22/09/2005 22:25

I recently left dd at a friends for the afternoon, her friend is a boy of 6 and she is 5. When I came to collect her they were both running around the garden naked, not playing in the pool or anything, but just in the garden, completely starkers.

She hasn't and will not be going back. I think you should always ask the parents. I felt that they were undermining my authority as a parent in applying their own rules to my child.

cod · 22/09/2005 22:26

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cod · 22/09/2005 22:26

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Rhubarb · 22/09/2005 22:27

I know, they are hippy type parents, but I was mightily pissed off!

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