Having an awful night, 1st night with no bottle for DS

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Oh dear, this is awful, I have not given him a bottle which he depends on for comfort and to go to sleep.(he is 17 months) I have decided to remove it because it gives him wind pain and it will rot his teeth. He can't settle, keeps waking up and crying, I feel such a shit bag but trying to hold fast on this one.

He has a bottle of water and also a beaker thingy of milk, he had plenty to eat before he went to bed and even a couple of snacks since he has been in bed. Have had lots of reassuring cuddles.

I know its not the end of the world, but he thinks I'm a bastard

Keep on going...they get the message and will stop waking! It does work, I did this with all od=f my 4 and they all sleep soundly now. Good luck

Could you try a dummy instead?

thanks for the reassurance. I think he is too old for me to introduce a dummy now, he sometimes puts his sister's in his mouth but not for long. He is just chattering a bit now.

he has gone to sleep now

Hope he slept well, I am sure it's just a matter of time but these first few days will be rough. I need to do it with my (almost) 3-yr-old and dummy at some point but can't face it.

Well done, sorry I was no more use in the middle of the night.

well what a rough night, i feel like such a bastard ! had a tearful day too. i am holding fast, just have to keep reminding myself i am doing this to stop him having tummy ache and rotten teeth. he has such huge brown sorrowful eyes i can't bare to look i'd imagine it must feel like taking fags away from a smoker to him oh well, he is sleeping now so an improvement on last night.

Do you have anyone else who can help you out? It's easier to do these things if it's not your baby.
Keep going - I bet in a week's time he will have totally forgotten about his bottle. You're doing great.

A bit tearful today at key times when he used to have his bottle. Mainly at 10,3 and bedtime, but otherwise ok. He has eaten loads of good food today because he has an appetite which I think has helped his mood and i managed to get some omega 3 down him too so we are getting there, thanks for your supportive replies.

can't really ask for help from friends because they all have kids of their own and i have 3 , but i know people do this for controlled crying.

How was he last night? remember it might get worse before it gets better - you have to just keep going. Are you on your own or do you have a partner? You must be tired with three!

i have a fab husband who is doing the night shift tonight. DS is getting better now. its tough for him because he sees his baby sister having regular bottles. he tries to swipe them when he walks past
i am tired with three, but soo happy, every day is christmas day

Aaah I'm glad, it sounds like you're cracking it! (by the way I'm up at this time because I'm four hours behind you as I live in St Lucia - hence why I often find myself posting on random middle of the night threads!).

ive been thereon a cruise

what nationality are ya?

British - we've been here since August last year but we're leaving for good in three weeks - can't wait to go tbh, it's very small and cliquey and there's not much to do with the dd's (although lots of good things too don't get me wrong - great little school, fab swimming lessons, snorkelling etc).

I just miss home.

Which cruise ship?

It was years ago, it was a Norwegian cruise ship, i think it was called norwegian dream or something like that. Are you coming back to UK ?

Well, i cracked today and gave son a bottle of milk. He has a molar coming through and a cold and due to the lack of sleep since we removed his bottle he has got into a right state. He was just mooching about the house today crying non stop in pure misery with it all. I couldn't bare to leave him any longer so I gave him his bottle. He has been much more settled ever since and is now fast asleep. The whole family was starting to suffer and i was exhausted. I remember that when we did this with DD she was older and she could understand and get her head around it. I think that DS is just not ready to cope with it yet. I didn't realise how much it affected them to remove it. So I feel like a failure, but also happy that my precious little boy is fast asleep and feeling better its impossible being a good Mum at times !