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Is 3 the new '2.4'? Convince me it's not!!

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Lucycat · 20/09/2005 14:37

ALL (well most) of my friends seem to be expecting baby number 3 and they seem to assume that we are going to go down that route too.

I know I don't want any more, some of the reasons being;
*We live in a 3 bedroom house.
*We have just about enough energy to cope with the 2 children we've got.
*We drive a 'normal' car i.e a saloon. Can't fit any more sprogs in
*I have 2 beautiful dd's who get on fabulously, play well together etc
*We are just beginning to see the light at the end of the tunnel - dd2 is 2.4 ahhhh.
*I'm quite looking forward to going back to work - at some point - don't want to rush things.

I am not at all broody, in fact I think some of them would do well to sort out the kids they have first , but could do with some mental ammo to help me when the topic turns to babies! So tell me the good things about 2 children instead of 3.

Oh and I've just got back into the jeans I was wearing 10 years ago!

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wordgirl · 20/09/2005 14:39

Well, you've just convinced me of the advantages of having two children - unfortunately I already have three!

Angeliz · 20/09/2005 14:40

the one that springs to mind immediately is a hand for each but really, why do you need excuses.
You don't want another, simple as that!

I on the other hand am very broody!

Yes, for number3!

Gobbledigook · 20/09/2005 14:40

How strange to see this title! Just on Saturday I was chatting with a group of friends and one of them said they'd heard '3 is the new 2' - funnily enough out of the 4 of us, 3 have 3 and 1 has 2!!

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Lizzylou · 20/09/2005 14:40

I am expecting no.2 in March and then that is definitely it!
I agree though, 3 does seem to be the new 2...a man my Dh works with has 3 and he passed on this advice "2 is fine, stick at that...3 is a nightmare as then they outnumber you!"

Gobbledigook · 20/09/2005 14:41

Oh Lucycat - you can drive 3 in a normal car! We have a mondeo and have 2 big Britax Eclipse seats (age 9m to 4 yrs ones) and a Britax Highliner high backed booster.

Strike off THAT excuse

JoolsToo · 20/09/2005 14:42

I hope she doesn't mind me saying but Enid has revealed she is expecting No 3 - fab news eh?

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Lucycat · 20/09/2005 14:48

ahh but gdg, we do have to think about fitting the tent in as well

and I'm not looking for excuses, just thoughts really!

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Lucycat · 20/09/2005 14:48

Oh and many congrats to Enid!!

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Gobbledigook · 20/09/2005 14:49

JT - I think Cod let it out a while ago didn't she? And I think Enid was cross but not sure - that was a good few weeks ago now though.

SueW · 20/09/2005 14:51

Some people have to have 3 to make up for those of us that have one and are very happy with that, thank you

MrsSpoon · 20/09/2005 14:54

Congratulations and to Enid!

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Stilltrue · 20/09/2005 15:00

Lucycat if you've reached your personal "no more broodiness" limit then that's great. Relax with your choice. Enjoy your lovely dds; maybe the telling thing wwith respect to your friends will be your contentment with what you've got! Personally, after a hard day with ds3 (4th child)I sometimes wish I'd felt I'd reached my limit after dd (no3)...

Lizzylou · 20/09/2005 15:01

I just couldn't deal with being pregnant again, I hate it, love my Ds but really hate pregnancy...two is definitely enough.
Please someone remind me of this if I ever get broody again!

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Lucycat · 20/09/2005 15:03

I agree completely. I am extremely happy with my lot - doesn't stop friends asking the questions though does it? I know they say it in jest, but they somehow don't seem to believe that I wouldn't want another..... perhaps it's cos I've 2 little angels (snurk)

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fqueenzebra · 20/09/2005 19:34

hmmm.. most people I know are very firmly attached to 2 and only 2. Quite a few have very happily stopped at 1.

gigglinggoblin · 20/09/2005 19:40

1.7 is the new 2.4, says so on the national stats website (dear god, i need a life). so you have 0.3 more children than an average family, no need to carry on at all

jampots · 20/09/2005 19:41

Most of our friends have 4 children (or at least fourth on the way) so I think 4 is the new 2. However, I prefer to stay in the 2 club.

Wordsmith · 20/09/2005 19:44

Lucy, just tell them you don't want 3 children, and that's that.

I was quite late having no 1, and I hated with a passion people asking me when I was going to start a family. Almost as much as those same people, once DS1 was born, asking me when I was going to have another. Not if, but when. Asking if is intrusive enough, but when!

I did in the end have no 2, but it really is non-one's business but the mother's and father's.

I haven't found many people asking me about having a third. But then I am 43 and I suppose most people reckon I'm past it now (which I am!)

charliecat · 20/09/2005 19:48

9 months of pregnancy, including morning sickness and giving birth...months of sick sleep and screaming and still having to do the nursery/school run.nah. 2 will do me just fine!

SherlockLGJ · 20/09/2005 19:49

One of the Mums, at school is on number 5

But then, it is a Catholic school, and she is very devout.

Oh, and they are loaded.............always helps.

spidermama · 20/09/2005 19:51

I wanted to have either 2 or 4 and opted for the latter. Three can be troublesome because one's always left out and there's a gap at the dinner table.

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Lucycat · 20/09/2005 20:56

Yep, still convinced! both dd's are fast asleep and will be until 7am (that's called tempting fate!) so I can open the bottle of wine and wait for CSI Miami! I DO love my sleep - that's the best reason for no more!!

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logic · 20/09/2005 21:20

lizzylou, I am same. can't stand being pregnant . pregnant = ill and miserable.

Need to ask though, do you evetger stop beingh broody? Am broody now! but logically don't want more.

logic · 20/09/2005 21:20

lucycat, we have drainwed bottlw of wine4, hencde rubbish typing. feel great tho!

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