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I dot know how to deal with this anymore :(

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invisibleink · 09/11/2010 10:55

My DS is three (four next April).

He was toilet trained a year ago. He would wet once or maybe twice but was generally ok. When DC3 was born he regressed massively, as is totally understandable. ut truthfully, he has never really been totally reliably dry iykwim?

He will go a ffew days sometimes with no accidents (although has a VERY wet nappy at night) but some days he has accidents every half hour. :(

Preschool has just called me saying I have to go pick him up(he has only been there since 9) as they have no pants left for him (am just feeding DC3 and then will go - they know this). They have also mentioned that on some days he goes more then seven or eight times in the three hours that he is there. This isnt right, is it?

I have tried angry, supportive, ignoring etc. I really think I have tried all the tactics, star charts, cleaning up after himself, everything. It is starting to get me down.

He is starting proper nursery attached to a school in January and they dot have the facilities to deal with this like the preschool does and I worry he will get teased. (there are younger children at the preschool so it doesnt happen there but he will be with older children at the 'big' school)

The most worrying thing is they will point it out to him (as do I ) and they say he seems surprised, almost as if he doesnt know he has done it. i have to say, at home, he always knows he has done it and sometimes tries to hide it as he doesnt like going upstairs to get changed.

I have taken him to the doc and he has no UTI, he doesnt have diabetes etc, but I am rally starting to think there is something wrong, iykwim? He wees LOADS, like I said, three of four times and hour some days. He also cant handle sugary drinks like squash as this seems to make the problems worse as it goes straight through him. Water is ok, but even milk seems to make him wet more?

How do I help my little boy be dry?

(Ok off to get him now but will BBL after I have picked him up)

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Scruffyhound · 09/11/2010 11:05

How long is it since hes had the last tests done? I think it might be worth taking him again and explain how worried you are about this and you dont understand why its happening so much. You do hear of bed wetting and reversal of potty training if you move house or if there is some sort of stress in the house. I think another visit to the docs and see what they say it does not hurt to make another appointment and ask the doc is it normal? Or do you have a health worker you could maybe talk to? Mine was fab she was a great support.

BlueberryPancake · 09/11/2010 11:07

That's very hard for you and a new baby as well.

How is he in himself? How does he react when he has an accident?

If I were you, I would take him out of pre school for a week, keep him at home, and really focus your attention (I know it's hard) on him and giving him rewards. Buy a new potty, and new knickers with his favorite character. Buy chocolate buttons or whatever treats, go full blast with all the tricks in the book (but only the positive ones).

Also, to improve his confidence, you can get either potty training knickers (they have a double layer of cotton and a slim plastic layer to give just enough protection for a small leak, they will not contain a full wee). Or, which is what I did with my two, get cotton nappy boosters which you can put in normal knickers. They will absorb just a bit of wee giving your DS enought time to make it to the loo. look at this link

Try giving him drinks at regular intervals - one glass at breakfast, one mid morning, one with lunch, etc.

If I were you, I'd see GP again. I'd be worried about something wrong with his health too.

Wereas nightime wees, many children don't sort this out until they are 5-6 years old.

Good luck

SkyBluePearl · 09/11/2010 12:16

how much does he drink?Is it alot?

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invisibleink · 10/11/2010 10:52

Thanks for your responses. Will take him back to the GP. Have an appointment this afternoon (had called on Monday anyway) so will bring it up then.

Have sent him off to preschool and we are doing a home/preschool joint attack with stickers (again!)

He doesnt drink a lot, so will up those to see if we can 'stretch' his bladder a bit. good idea.

I wot put him back in nappies. He would be mortified. he considers them babyish and as he has a little sister this, I think, would make him feel worse about the whole thing.

Thanks for your advice everyone!

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