Quick question re crying newborns

[BollocksToThis]

OK, so she's overtired, and I hate leaving a baby to cry. But if soothed she'll go hours dipping in and out of calmness. Before eventually working herself into a frenzy and feeding to sleep. If just left to her own devices she reaches fever pitch much sooner and therefore settles much sooner. But it seems cruel to leave her. WWYD?

I have just never left a new born to cry for great lengths of time (well, dd2 never stopped crying realy even whilst being comforted as she had reflux.+}

I would comfort her as I would presume that is what she is looking for. I know it is tiring.

Also depends how long she is crying for before self soothing. If only a couple of minutes then fine. Longer than that and I would be climbing the walls with the crying.

I know this is probably stating the obvious but does she have wind? Sorry if my advice is rubbish just didn't want your post to go unanswered. Hopefully someone else will be along soon with better advice.

Oh ignore the wind thing. Just re read and you said she is overtired.

How long does she cry for before she settles down My DD, as a newborn, hated being held too much, hated slings, always wanted to be "left alone" - so rocking and holding her to sleep never worked for us, she'd simply get more and more agitated. So we left her, even as a newborn, just to see how long it would take for her to settle herself and remarkably it took 10 minutes (very occasionally 20 mins, which was the max). It was agony for me to hear and watch her cry but she settled more quickly than if I tried holding her (then she either never settled or settled after an hour!!!!). As the weeks went by the crying to sleep took less time - on average 5 mins and often no crying around 12 weeks. She had reflux too but hated being held :-( She's still a wriggly toddler and would rather have a quick squeeze than a long hug :-( But she's very happy!

Sorry, wasn't clear last night - crying baby! I haven't left her to self-settle, it's just that she only seems able to calm down once she's peaked IYSWIM. So if I leave her to cry for 5 minutes then try to soothe her, it works better than soothing straight away which just drags it out. But it goes against what I feel is right.