How to mother boys to make them good husbands?

[Beccaboo2345]

There are many posts on the AIBU board about MILs and it often seems the case that sons cannot stand up to their unreasonable mothers and support their wives who do not seem to be unreasonable.

As the mother of 2 young boys, I hope someday to be a MIL and grandparent but I am really keen to get that difficult balance right so my son/future DIL/SIL will value their relationship with me and not be stifled/annoyed/stressed. I would like my sons to be able to tell me if I am crossing a line; just like I can with my own mother.

What should I be aware of now in the way I mother my boys?

Is a difficult MIL relationship inevitable? My own MIL winds me up a lot although compared to some she is great but the relationship certainly isn't easy .... And this is 20 years down the line!

Sorry I might not have explained myself properly in my thread, me and dh are very close and he was always with me when we did pregnancy tests and other 'big' stuff but I meant I wanted us to tell my family before his. Can't really explain why, we are a very close family and I do really adore dh's family.

Mamavoo - I see what you're saying about it sounding like I wouldn't accept ds's partner but it really isn't like that, I'm scared that so many women (and men) seem to hate their in laws, it worries me that a partner might automatically look for the negatives. My in laws are fab but I'd say I'm one of the only ones out of my friends who has a close relationship. Maybe the others only talk of the bad things and not the good things about their in laws?

mums should make sure their DS's do their share of housework and make sure they realise from a young age that housekeeping, childcare etc is not "woman's work"

sadly my exH's mum did absolutely everything for him, his brother and dad when they lived at home, cooked, cleaned, tidied, washing etc....his dad did f**k all and didn't i know it when i lived with him! :o put it this way, at the age of 27, he once asked me how to boil an egg. wtf.

i meant when i lived with exH not exH's dad lol :o