Broodiness when you have a newborn and know its your last...

[TheUnmentioned]

Am I alone?

Ds is 3, almost 4. Dd is 6 weeks. Both pregnancies have been awful in different ways and I have been very anxious in both. I had a PPH after dd and many problems after the birth which Im still experiencing.

We always said this would be our last baby because the pregnancies really impact on our lives negatively and its not fair on the kids. However, I am desperate for another baby. Is it my hormones? Is this normal? The thought that I wont ever see a first smile again or give birth again or feel a baby's kicks again is making me feel sick and so upset.

I know that we shouldnt have another and quite apart from the reason above we cant afford it and I need to get back to work at some point, Im 30 next year and will be staying at home until dd is in pre school.

I just feel heartbroken about it all, does anyone else feel like this?

I also htink alot of this is because I feel llike I made an arse of labouring and breastfeeding with dd and want to make it all right again with a subsequent baby which is wrong, I know it is, but I do think its part of the problem.

Not much advice, but I have heard it is very common to feel like this.

I have just the one DD but when she was very tiny, I was overwhelmed with the urge to have another baby straight away. I was rubbish at being pregnant, very ill health all the way through, and wanted to do it again straight away to see if I could 'get it right'.

Thankfully, DD is now 8 months and those feelings have gone away. I miss the newborn stage terribly, but she is so much fun in a different kind of way at this age.

I also thought I'd want to stay at home with her forever....but I'm back to work in a few weeks and strangely looking forward to it.
Funny things, hormones.

I think that when you have a tiny baby, it is really common to be broody.

However, a few years down the line, when they are both out of nappies, buggies etc, you might not want to go back to the baby stage. When my DS stopped wearing nappies, I didn't really think much of it because my DD was still in nappies. But when DD stopped wearing nappies, I thought it was great - because that was the end of nappies for our family. Stuff like that.

You haven't made an arse of any of it - you have 2 lovely DCs.

Give yourself a bit of time anyway - your baby is still so tiny.

Life sort of changes - you get past the baby stage and do new stuff.