Were you always sure you wanted kids?

[Sarsaparilllla]

I think about having kids, I'm 32, relationship, house, good job, we're not rolling in it but money's ok, and I'm just nore sure if I want kids enough to have them?

Everyone else who has kids seems to have this overwhelming urge that they knew they wanted them, needed to have a baby, and I don't know if I feel that, or if I feel like I should

Did anyone else feel like this before having a baby, I do day dream about it, I've got a list of baby names in my diary, lol, and I'm here, posting on this site, thinking about it, but I still don't know, I feel like I'm missing some deep urge that everyone else seems to have

yes I always wanted them although I thought I wanted a relationship more.

[snort]

tbh if my relationship with dh ever came to an end for whatever reason, now that i am too old to have another child i don't see any reason to have so much as a date again.

I was never interested in kids in any shape or form. Then I got to my early 30's, after a couple of years of marriage and I guess things changed :).

No. I didn't want them, couldn't see the point, tbh (!)

Then I hit 30 and the urge to have a baby suddenly hit me. I changed virtually overnight.

I got BOGOF (twins).

I'm not unhappy with how things turned out, but I had to sacrifice my independence, career, life etc.

I would say that if you're unsure, and like your life as it is, don't have dch, especially if you are carrer-minded. (Not saying you can't have dch and a career, just that's it's not an easy life.)

In my early 20s I was absolutely sure that I would NEVER have children, as I had my mother's bad temper and wouldn't want to visit that on a child. But when I was in my mid-30s and happily married, we tried for ages to get pregnant without success. Despair. Then finally it happened...now I have four and cannot imagine life without them.

Never wanted children. I accidentally got pregnant at 38. DP and I were both quite shocked but had a 'well, it's now or never' attitude.

And we have been blessed with a perfect little easy going DD who I feel privileged to have in my life. Ruling my life that is

I did, but not enough to dump various boyfriends who didn't want them.

I didn't want them the way that my sister - who got pregnant on her own, using AID - did. And I felt then, and still do, that if you really want children - not the whole 'family' package but children - that is the road you will go down, and I just couldn't face it.

And by that point I'd pretty well faced up to the fact that other people are the ones who have relationships, and children, and all that kind of thing.

Then about six months later I took up with DP, and got pregnant fairly soon afterwards. I am glad I did have that baby (although I was in total shock and didn't actually get my head around the fact I would have a baby till second stage labour) and I had another one a couple of years later, through choice.