Hello, we brought DP's DN to live with us at the start of this school term (change of city and school). It may ring a bell with some of you who've provided sterling help over the past couple of months. Back story here and many other threads for the diligent poster to check out 
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So, we've made really good progress with DN but obviously have quite a way to go.
He's been moved up out of the 'nurture' group he was put in on arrival to be assessed. He only did this under duress because we insisted, supervised his homework for a week or so until the teacher admitted he was way above the level in what was, essentially, a remedial group. He had been spending nearly every day in detention or removed from class to the cool down room.
So this week was his first week in the mainstream class. On Monday he was approached by a teacher to take him to the new class - he refused (but wasn't rude) so the school called me and I asked them to send him home. We had a nice, constructive chat and he agreed to go the next day, which he did and he's been fun and relaxed at home for the past couple of days (so much happier when he's not in trouble).
Today I've received an email from his old form teacher (who is brilliant, and helping iwth the transition even though he's no longer 'her' student). Apparently in his lessons he's not particularly disruptive (this is a major improvement!) but was not on-task, didn't do all the work and refused to respond when the teacher tried to get him involved.
They've asked me to talk to him.
My only gut instinct is to be very sincere and try and explain how his attitude comes across to others, how we all have to learn to enjoy school in some way as there's no way out of it etc. But I think this might just be blah blah over his head. Also I want to avoid cutting his computer time because I'd rather leave that for when he has actually transgressed,
I would really appreciate any thoughts on this...