dummy weaning nightmare!

[miski]

our 5 month old has onky used a dummy for a month, but in that time he has managed to get complettely attached. before he would go to sllep lying down with a few minutes of fuss (and it took us months of rocking and ssshing to get to that stage!) but since a visit to the grandparents, he's gone to sleep with a dummy.at first we thought it was great because he dropped straight off to sleep himself,and because of the FSID advice but then he started waking in the night every hour because he had lost it...its been ruining all our sleep, and he's been getting grumpier and grumpier.

so, we decided to wean him (though i didn't do any research first like i should have!). we've gone cold turkey - he hasn't hadit for 4 days. immediately his nightime sleep has improved BUT getting him down for daytime naps has become an exhausting nightmare!! i don't know what to do - if there is a better way to proceed, if i should give back the dummy or if i should grit my teeth and continue... advice and commiserations wanted!!

sorry about terrible typing, have boy on one arm!

I haven't really got any advice I'm afraid but I really think you should keep going, you have come this far and if you give the dummy back now you will have to go through the whole thing again in a few weeks/months/years. I personally would put him down for his naps and if he doesn't sleep then he doesn't sleep, I would let him cry for 5 mins before going in for a cuddle and repeat, but I understand not everyone is comfortable with that sort of thing. Do you think another comforter might help like a blanket or a toy?

i've tried a few things, but he really wants to suck on something.i think we should keep going too, or all the tears have been for nothing, and you are right, he will have to give it up at some point, its just so hard getting him to sleep! and i can't let him cry, but i do let him fret a bit before i pick him up again

We had this problem and attached the dummy to the sleeping bag at night with one of those mam clips? The strap is short and he learnt quickly how to find it!

Ime give the dummy back to him, he clearly wants it for comfort and he's only 5 months old!

I wouldn't deprive him and he will give it up at some point! Every child is different my dc1 wouldn't touch a dummy my dc2 needs his.

My dc2 uses it to fall asleep once asleep it's out of his mouth and whenever he stirs he'll find it himself with no panic or waking us then back to sleep!

Yep. we had the problem too and tried a sleepytot which worked for us and I couldn't live without it now.

Another thing someone said to me is that babies can tell the difference between naps and night time sleep and you can do different things. I give my ds2 a bottle when he goes down at nap time and leave it with him. But I don't do it at night time. he has to clean his teeth and read a story after his milk. So you could try a dummy at nap time but not at bedtime and see if it works.

:)