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Where would you live??

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campervanner · 02/11/2010 11:02

we are starting a new life in the west country and want what is best for our two toddlers (another one maybe on the way soon?). We are in the very lucky position of being able to choose between two fab houses -- which one would you go for?? (I do know how lucky I am by the way and count my blessings all the time, we have had some bad times in the last few years, but it has suddenly all come ok)
The first house is in a tiny village, no pub/shop etc, but a small village school that kids could go to until the age of about seven I suppose. It is in the middle of all our new friends, a twenty minute commute for dh and it is a biggish house that has just recently been done up.

The second house is totally ramshackle, needs loads of money spending on it (the price in the end would work out about the same as the other house), but is in the most gorgeous position, high above a river (views from most windows) and almost walking distance from a village with a pub (but no shop/school etc), we could even have a little boat. There is a school about a 10 min drive away. But it is a 45 minute commute and about 35 minutes from most of our friends -- I don't know if it is a very 'young' area, since it is quite expensive (if you aren't buying a ruin like us!).
The first house is the practical option and the kids would have loads of friends nearby, but the other house is the romantic option and we would have amazing weekends.
Head vs heart!!! What would you do?

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Fiddledee · 02/11/2010 11:43

Head - do you really want to do all that building work with two toddlers around. However, given that I've just had a chain fall through which of the sellers is in the better position?

thisisyesterday · 02/11/2010 11:46

i would go for the first- why could they only go to the school until they were 7?

i would hate to have to drive everyhwere, school every morning etc etc

actually, i wouldn't go for either. ,if this is a forever house i would keep looking

Ragwort · 02/11/2010 11:49

I don't think either sound ideal; having lived in a village with no shop etc it is very, very isolating and insular. What will happen when your children are 7? Suggest you keep looking.

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ethelina · 02/11/2010 11:52

If the second house wasn't in the picture, would you choose the first anyway? What I mean is do you love the first enough to change your life for?

Does the prospect of having an amazing home when the second house is finished outweigh the distance from everything?

How important is it you are close to your friends?

Usually I would say follow your heart as you will always wonder what if? otherwise. If it was me though, I would be inclined to stay within the village, assuming the first house is good.

HTH Grin (hahahaha, feel like i've just overcomplicated it all for you, sorry)

ethelina · 02/11/2010 11:53

If you don't love the house you move to, you will be miserable.

fruitcocktail · 02/11/2010 11:56

i'm with ragwort but i'm a city girl and i would find either very isolating! i also would hate everyone knowing my business all the time... also your children after 7, what then? where is the nearest follow on school? is it walkable or will you need a boat? Grin

definately would not do renovation work! i've been watching far too much sarah beanie though!

GL with whatever you decide!

UpSinceCrapOClock · 02/11/2010 11:57

My cousin and his wife bought a ramshackle ruin in the middle of nowhere. Took them a few years to do it up but it looks amazing now. Their one living room wall is virtually all window and looks straight on to the massive lake which just happens to be at the bottom of their huge garden - and there is a forest on the other side of the lake. It is gorgeous and their logic in buying it was that pretty much the one thing you can't change in a house is the view, so that was their top priority.

Having said that, I was brought up in various old ruin houses that were always being done up and given a choice, I would never move into anything less than a brand new, perfect build with all mod cons where the only thing I would have to do would be to decide where to put the furniture.

But then I am pretty lazy and can't be arsed with DIY!

Ragwort · 02/11/2010 14:01

If you hate DIY (like me Grin) - do not go for the second house - my DH hates DIY - cannot put up a picture hook (neither can I) - he once got carried away looking at a house in a wonderful location - with no roof - luckily I talked him out of it.

I think where you live ie: the amenities etc far outweigh 'the view' and the 'loveliness' of the house; remember when your children are older you will be ferrying them everywhere. It took me years to get to this decision though - I used to love the thought of an old, isolated cottage in the country, now its my worst nightmare !

campervanner · 02/11/2010 16:19

Most people I talk to seem to agree with Ragwort and co! Which makes me think I should learn from others experience....

can't help a nagging idea of having coffee on a verandah looking down a valley to the river at the second house though! It would be a real Swallows&Amazons upbringing. And I know what Upsincecrapoclock means about the only thing you can't change is the view...!
If we went for the first house, the reason I would probably move the children from the tiny primary school at 8 or so is because it is very sweet, but possibly not the best education-wise, whereas there are really really good schools about 15 min drive away.

I grew up in the middle of nowhere, so not too worried about isolation, but would love to have a village nearby just for those moments when you feel a bit stir-crazy sitting at home. At the first house I have really good friends within a five minute drive.

Argh, still haven't decided! Thanks for all the great comments though, def food for thought...

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campervanner · 02/11/2010 17:26

Choosing second house (by river) is fear of the unknown, choosing first house (sensible but less exciting) is saying goodbye to the dream.

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