social services

[tandoori]

i have already posted this in another topic but i need some more answers please.what can i do to get social services to leave me and my family alone? health visitor is spiteful and keeps making lies up.she has refered us again because we don't want to see an hv. i am pregnant and i don't need this stress.

tandoori sorry to hear you are having difficulties.

If you are not getting a reply on a thread it is better to "bump" it, as it can get very confusing (for you and us) if you start several threads.

My best advice would be to see your GP or request to see another health visitor so that they can advise you or help assess if you are having problems.

Clearly your hv has concerns, but perhaps if there is a personality clash/some other misunderstanding then it would be best for you to discuss it with another professional.

Whatever the rights and wrongs of the situation, you will not make it better by avoiding hv if allegations have been made.

If the hv is making up lies you need to make a complaint and most importantly see another health professional make an appointment with your gp and contact PALS..(Patient advice liason service they will invesigate your situation properly).Refusing to see a hv all together will not help you. You are entitled to voice your concerns if you are not happy with the care.

yes, i agree see your GP... do you have a nice one you can talk to? do you have a partner? family? that could come with you and back you up?

can you tell us a bit more about what has been going on?

can YOU contact social services and talk to them about it?

thank you for your answers.i am going to wait until they contact me and see what they say.i don't really want to go into details,it is a long story.why would the ss be concerned just because i don't want an health visitor? after all there isn't a law saying hv are compulsory.

As a HV I can tell you that refusing a HV is not a good enough reason to refer to SS. As a HV myself I would never refer for that reason. I have one or two families who refuse HV contact locally and I respect their decision.

What are the concerns tandoori - Social services do not generally stay involved unless they can see a need. Can you say more about the concerns? If all is well I would hope social services would throw a referral out if it simply said "will not see a HV" as that's a ridicuous reason to refer.

there isn't actually any concerns.we asked her what her concerns are and she couldn't give us a straight answer.she is doing it out of spite because we don't want to see her anymore,we have let them tell us what to do for so long,now we have finally spoke up for ourselves and told them our wishes and they do not like this.

im not refusing 'routine' visits,my child has had all the routine visits,and plenty more besides that.they just want to keep doing more and more,they wont leave us alone!

You are entitled to a copy of the notes they hold about you. Write to the CEO of the PCT, and involve PALS. I refused any further contact with HV service after three visits but set out where the service had failed and my misgivings formally. They completely respected my perspective after that and just before dd was born I wrote again and said I wanted no contact.