any1 feel guilty/horrible/genraly miserable after starting to send baby to childminder??

[docpriya]

am a first time mum..and am planning to go back to work.
BF my DD for a year and stopped a week ago..also started sending her to a childminder.
but DD cries her lungs out and hs been doing so for 2 weeks almost.
I knew that would happen but I am feeling so miserable and almost terribly guilty:(
any1 out there going thru the same??

Hey hey hey.

Weve all been there.

Guilt doesnt stop .ever.

your a Mum thats your lot in life.

Clearly you looked for a good cm,nowadays they are so tightly inspected they are professionals in their own right.

Its new.

its hard.

Give it time cut yourself some slack and sure enough she will be fine.

not going through the same, but if my child was screaming every single time i dropped her off, for 2 weeks, i would be seriously reconsidering my child care options

Docpriya, my DS cried like a banshee when I left him at our cm - and I was always in tears before I got to the end of her drive. (He's our PFB!)

Of course, as soon as I'm out of the way and he's with his friends, it's fine. (Our cm was lovely enough to send pics of him playing so I could see he was happy. Do you think your cm could text you to let you know your DS has settled, perhaps? ) Even though he's been going to her for just over a year, if I'm dropping him off he appears to be bereft - if it's DH (and I've watched this from the car...) he happily trots in...

My DS was especially hard to leave at about 12mo - I think he could pick up on how upset I was to be leaving him. Tbh, he plays me like a Stradivarius.

I think you'd really know if she was genuinely unhappy there. I just hope you're relaxing now and have a nice evening ahead of you. Hope it goes much better for you tomorrow

2 weeks is nothing when it comes to settling a child of that age. They've learnt enough to know how to press your buttons! I bet she stops crying within 2 minutes of you leaving.

Most working mums will have put their children into childcare by 12 months so you aren't doing anything cruel or unusual. It's hard leaving them but don't worry too much.

As a CMer myself OP, you are not alone. Most mums feel this way and it is especially hard when it is your 1st child and when they are upset when they are left. The age she is makes settling-in take a bit longer as this is the age where they suffer from separation anxiety. Did she have some day with the CMer before she started full-time? Give it time and as long as you are happy with the CMer then she will settle and when that happens it will become a lot easier.

feel soo much better today.. thank you for all your messages
actually like my CM very much..she is really great. TBH i am probably anxious/worried and DD picks up on it..
am going to try and be calm and have patience