Does anyone else not go to anything baby/toddler related?

[mama2mooandbabymoo]

Or is it just me?

I have a 28mo dd and an 8 mo dd and we entertain ourselves at home!

Anyone else the same? Dd1 will go to a play group or something similar I guess but I havent looking into it yet.

They are both very social and have friends to play.

Me.

DD is 20 mo and we just go to the park- she won't play with other kids there yet, though.

DS is 8 and she will annoy play with him a lot.

I am planning on putting her in a daycare for 3 hrs every morning soon- it's just a little baby/toddler centre downstairs from where we live. Well, if she likes it, if not, then I will not.

But that's more for my peace than a necessity of socializing for her.

Don't get the whole toddler's groups for the benefit of the child thing, tbh.

me
i have three, eldest 3

i'm happy with the friends i have

I reckon it's different with the 2nd/3rd child. When DD1 was a baby we did music class, baby massage, swimming and tumble tots. Now she's a bit older we only go to 2 groups a week, partly cos I realised what a rip off some of them were and partly cos we've got plenty of friends now and tea and cake at their houses is free .

I feel slightly guilty that DD2 probably won't go to many groups, but then she has DD1 to entertain her and several of DD1's little playmates now have little brothers and sisters too.

Me!

Have 2, 3.5 and 1.5. Never did the rhyme time, play groups, toddler groups, any of that stuff. I did post-natal group after DD1 which was great and met up with them a few times afterwards but TBH I can't really be bothered. We are quite happy doing our own thing. Plus I have friends (real ones not baby ones IYSWIM) who have had children at the same time, and my parents are nearby. I find it amusing when people react with horror and/or pity when I reveal that we don't do anything in the way of organised activities It's not compulsory, so

Nope, I never did any of the mother and baby stuff. I don't see that these groups offer anything that DD's not already getting elsewhere and they're of no interest to me personally. We have lots of good friends already and f/t working, studying, playing with DD, exercising and other hobbies (and occasionally a bit of housework) keep me busy enough the rest of the time...

When I was on mat leave for the first six months, I took DD out and about with me in a carrier to parks, museums, galleries, cafes etc..

I don't understand why I should want to hang out with new people just because they have children.

I only go to mom and toddlers at our church so I see my friends and their kids and my DD is happy there,
went to village mom and t but DD hated it so much I stopped going i had nothing in common with other mums except we had managed to have a child; they say its good for her but can not see what is good about her changing from inquisitive happy willing to go and climb anytihng girl into crying clingy girl you wont get off my lap.

greatly overrated as children tht small self centred so never really play with other kids just sort of co-exist, there is loads of time later for learning etc

at the moment very happy turbo shredding old paper in home office proper toys are overrated too

Thank god for that! Thanks all, its good to know that Im not the only who doesnt.

I did with first, but only started at 19 months with second. I found everyone is in cliques and are not partic. welcoming - they've made their friends and aren't terribly generous or empathetic. So I've stopped. I'm going to put DD into the creche at the gym as she does like playgroups, it's just me! I'll hopefully get fitter too.wann

I went to massage (a 4 week course) but that was it. Now I work full time so I can't get to anything. Not that I would bother! I'm not very sociable.

I would like to, DD1 25 months, DD2 6 months but DP works shifts so on his days off we spend time together and wouldn't want to be tied down to classes.

I think more importantly for DD1, she seems to love dancing/singing etc but DD2 is too young and just happy watching her sister! :)

I don't and I am being forever made to feel guilty and that I am scarring my DS for life. Sick of it.

Babies/toddlers don't need groups and classes but lots of new mums do. I didn't have any 'real' friends as you call them with babies or young children, they were all at work. They don't have post-natal groups in my area any more. Surestart groups and Rhyme Time etc were the only places I met other mums. I have never been so lonely as I was in the first six months after DS was born.

For the first 10 months that my DD was home with me, we didn't go to any organised groups as I'm not into them. My DD spent alot of time with me out and about and we always had family around. Then she went FT to a CM with 5 other children at 10 months and they do loads of activities together there so I'm off the hook :-)

With first DS I went to the odd playgroup but not classes.A load of overhyped nonsense and a real marketing con, IMO.
With DS2 I do absolutely nothing in the way of organised activities.I just enjoy doing my own thing with my boys.

With first DS I went to the odd playgroup but not classes.A load of overhyped nonsense and a real marketing con, IMO.
With DS2 I do absolutely nothing in the way of organised activities.I just enjoy doing my own thing with my boys.

Meant to add, I can't believe that do many parents rush their children out to these so-called 'classes'.
It's the one time in their lives-before school- when they don't have to adhere to timetables, so why not just chill out?!!

I have never really done anything regularly apart from the six months I ran the local toddler group. Frankly life's too short. I'd far rather have a few select friends come round for coffee/cake and Playmobil than 25 random snotfaced toddlers smearing themselves over four communal ride on toys.

Quenelle, I can second that. I started to go to a group with my DD a few months ago and have made some really nice friends. I also met a few mums through a neighbour and am really grateful for that. We moved up here away from friends and family three years ago (seemed a good idea at the time...) and for the first few months of my DD's life it had been quite lonely. None of our friends have children anyway. It's a different sort of a friend you make through children - I know my MIL made friends for life like that.

I have to say though, that the group is very small and informal and there are no classes or organised activities as such. Just a place to meet and have cake

I never did whilst on maternity leave and wouldn't now even if I had time, which I don't.