Health Visitors and "Second" Families

[irishkitkat]

Hi everybody, first time poster, long term lurker here!
Just had a query about my experiance with our HV after the birth of my firxt child. Is it commonplace for HVs to spend a considerable portion of their first visit discussing any other children and relationships the mother/father have had?
My DP has two sons from a previous relationship, he has residence of the boys and they visit their mother weekly. When the HV visited after my first son was born she spent 45 minutes of an hour long visit talking to my DP about his previous relationship, the contact arrangements, etc and even went as far as listing my DPs ex as a significant person in my son's life on his notes.
I have since queried this but was told this was standard practice and even though my son will never have any contact with my step kids mother she is regarded as a significant person in his life. Just was wondering if anybody else had experianced this because it as always annoyed me slightly? Thanks ladies

my DH has daughter born outside of our relationship. She was here when the HV first came to meet our baby girl. She never questioned me about my step daughter and certainly did not record any information about her mother. I cannot imagine how negatively i would have reacted had she tried to do so.

very very strange i think.

Thanks SugarPlumFairy!
See that's what I thought too but at the time I was a new mummy and feeling a bit fragile with it all and didn't feel able to question it! It did distress me but I put it to the back of my mind until I was pregnant with our second. I spent my second pregnancy gearing myself up to tell the HV that we weren't willing to discuss it but this time the new HV never mentioned anything. When I questioned it she seemed a bit startled but, to be honest, I think she was trying to cover for her colleague and said it was standard practice as a child safety measure and was unwilling to change his notes. I think now I know that it isn't standard I may raise the issue again and ask for his notes to be modified. Thanks again!