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Nap Training, any ideas? (quite long post sorry)

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fumblemummy · 19/10/2010 10:54

Hi,

So I have a 5 month old who just refuses naps generally.

She was 7 weeks prem, suffered from colic and reflux although the latter is improving with time. She has always slept well at night and self settles to sleep in her cot in our room beautifully.

She has never slept very well in the day since the reflux became sad at about 4 weeks. But we were able to get around this by keeping her upright in the Moby sling. She is now more comfortable and will lay flat. As she is getting bigger I just can't carry her so much anymore as I'm being treated for disc problems in my back. In the sling she will sleep for the full 45 minute nap (or double that in the middle of day nap)

Have asked HV for advice who sent a Nursery Nurse out to talk to me who suggested the pat/stroke to sleep in cot approach and we agreed that this week we would use this for the morning nap so that at the very least I can carry her through the longer lunchtime nap. She also suggested putting her in the gro-bag for naps and she checked I was reading the tiredness signs properly and the obvious things such as a dark bedroom. We have being doing this now since Thursday we little or no success.

As soon as DD sees the cot she starts yelling. Patting/stroking make no difference whatsoever and in fact seem to increase the volume and intensity of the crying which only stops momentarily once she is picked up before starting again due to overtiredness.

The only day we did have a success was the day I nipped out of the room for 5 minutes to answer the door to the postman. She was asleep by the time I came back, but woke again 10 minutes later.

I have tried the buggy, sometimes she will drop off after about 45minutes of walking outside but will again sleep for only about 15minutes. Never had any success just rocking it back and forth in or out of the house.

Any ideas? Will this patting thing work eventually and am I just being a wimp (I just don't know if I can listen/watch her cry anymore - I just end up crying myself [hsad] )

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fumblemummy · 19/10/2010 12:14

moved to 'sleep' forum

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Cornonthecob · 19/10/2010 12:18

sorry you are going through this, i do sympathise on the sleep and reflux.

ime after many mistakes of holding dc2's hand through the cot until falling asleep, shh patting, hugging, rocking, taking to our bed etc etc... i resorted to letting him self settle which was painful (for me) listening to the crying, but i stuck with it and we now have regular afternoon naps in the cot!

i ended up turning down the monitor so i could only see the crying iykwim and eventually it did stop.

of course not everyone is into controlled crying its not for the weak hearted, but i have learnt the hard way that children need to learn to self settle and can only do that imhe if left alone... if they keep getting interupted (even when they stir mid nap which is common) they will carry on expecting to be held, rocked, lifted... i truly believe they pick up on our anxiety so me being in the room never ever helped!!

the 1.5-2 hour nap every afternoon is great, lets me do whatever i need to do or not do before we do the school run!

good luck and be strong, it will get better.

fumblemummy · 19/10/2010 21:08

Thanks Corn,

Out of interest - how long did it take your DS to learn to self settle?

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Cornonthecob · 19/10/2010 23:05

honestly it took me a couple of weeks, that's because i would do a 1 or 2 days then crack and go in as i couldn't bear the crying, then i'd have to start again, but then as my nerves got thinner and i got tougher, the days did progress when i wouldn't interupt and the crying times got shorter then stopped. he still wakes mid sleep sometimes, but self settles, i've learnt to know his cries if i need to go in or not, and if i don't go in i sometimes sneek a peak in once he's alseep again just to check..

so realistically if i stuck with it, i reckon i could have done this in 2-4 days?

Cornonthecob · 19/10/2010 23:11

also, i have found that the more tired he was the longer it took him to settle so do get regular nap times in and enjoy the down time! Grin

fumblemummy · 20/10/2010 08:21

Hmm May give it a go. Not sure the method I'm using is any less hard for either of us as she can tell I'm there and just refusing to pick her up rather than just not because I'm not there.

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