I feel so sick......Ds went missing

[nutcracker]

Went up to school with Ds (2.9) and my friend to fetch the kids.

We always sit by the climbing frame so that Ds can play whilst we wait.

When Dd2's class came out, my friend said she would watch Harry whilst I got Dd2.
Got dd, came back and Harry had gone. My first thought was that he was still on the climbing frame but i just couldn't see him because of all the kids, but no he wasn't there.

A couple of moms went out the gates to check but couldn't see him, I went and checked with a teacher to see if he had snuck into the school but no.

I had a overwhelming urge to throw up as I realised he just wasn't anywhere.

Thankfully, a whole 10 minutes later he was found by the recpetion block up the other end of the school. He had obviously thought i'd gone to get Dd2 from her old classroom.

I still feel sick now thinking about what could have happened, school on main road etc, strangers balah blah

oh gosh you must've been frantic! so glad he is ok

it's incredible how quickly they can make themselves "disappear" isn't it?

Blimey am blarting like an idiot now.

oh poor you

its so awful

ohh poor you - it's horrible isn't it. And what about the friend that was supposed to be watching him?

God - you must feel so shaky right now. What did your friend have to say?

Oh she felt awful, but i know how easy it is to get engrossed in conversation so i don't hold her responsible, after all i'm his mom i should have watched him myself.

i dunno... if i;, watching someone elses i always watch them much more closely than i do my own iyswim!

I think it's really good of you not to blame her but at the same time you really shouldn't blame yourself: you thought he was being watched.

Well yeah ikwym and tbh i don't think it would have happeneded if i'd been watching one of hers, but i think she felt bad enough anyway.

cupcakes is right... don't blame yourself! it isn't like you just left him by himself with no spervision

Thanks guys

Nutcracker - how horrible. I know that feeling from losing one my ds's in the supermarket/park etc and even for those few seconds my heart just seems to drop to my feet and I feel on the verge of panic. hugs

I don't know the layout of your school but people would have been at the gates to stop him getting onto the main road wouldn't they?

Have a nice big glass of wine tonight.

Yeah in my more rational moment (like the first 2 seconds) I did think exactly that and hopefully i would have been right had he gone that way.

Oh Nutty that must have been really scary. I know how panicked I got when I "lost" ds briefly at a soft play place even though they had a good security system at the entrance. Poor you. Was ds OK or was he a bit shaken up too? Nice of you not to blame your friend. Think the glass of wine is a good idea.

Ds was fine, didn't even realise he was missing iykwim.

glad he was found safe and well, a horrible and scary moment for you. I've had the same thing happen with my DS to.

Well, that's a relief, at least you didn't have to worry about his reaction IYSWIM. When ds went missing at soft play he was very upset - had ended up at the bottom of a BIG slide (goes all the way up to the ceiling which is very high as it's a warehouse building). Don't think he actually went down it, just found his way to the end and was scared of all the big kids coming down. It's very hard to find them in that place because there are so many twists and turns in the activity area.

Its scary isn't it? Don't you think little boys seem to wander off more??? My DS is always wandering off on his own and never ever gets upset if he gets lost in the supermarket or Woolworths, he just sees all the toys and you turn your back for a minute and he's gone and he just doesn't care!!!

I have been frantic on many occasion in Woolworths as he can disappear for up to 5 minutes and that is a long time when you are looking for a little boy and when you find him he just looks at you as if to say "whats the fuss about Mum I was playing!" DD always stays by my side and if she does wander she keeps coming back to check where I am but he doesn't give a toss!!!

Dd1 never used to wander off but Dd2 was always doing it.

Ds has only just been allowed to walk without reins or a wrist strap so it's quite new for him to wander off.

Mind you i wouldn't have had the wrist strap on him anyway as he was on the climbing frame.

No way will my DS be tied to me!!! Tried that one!!

He's 3 now and just does everything his big sister does so if she wants to run so does he so I would have no chance with a wrist strap!!!!

My youngets is 2 and has dissappeared a few times at the school

She is the fastest little girl I have ever seen and luckily has never gone further than rthe next classroom etc...

I now have reins which she hates but the only way to keep her with me