Do other parents make you feel inadequate ??

[nutcracker]

A friend of mine invited me round for coffee today. Her SIL was also going to be there with her 2 yr old and 11 week old ds's.

Don't get me wrong, her SIL was lovely, very friendly etc but she made me feel so inadequate.

When it got to lunch time my friend got up to make lunch (ham salad sanwiches) and her SIL had brought her 2 yr old sons lunch of celery, cucumber, and bread with her in a little box, which I felt was a bit funny as there was nothing wrong or unhealthy with the food my friend was providing.
She also refused to let her Ds have a cake after his lunch saying that he doesn't have stuff like that and, then asked if my friend would turn the tv off as her ds doesn't watch it.

My kids all watch tv, eat crisps, cake etc and I didn't research the best baby bottle or reusable nappy for them etc, and I just sat there feeling like a crap parent.

I know it's silly but i did.

yeah - I'm only new at this mum business but even I know love and cuddles and hugs (and the odd treat if it makes your life easier ) are what's really important.

And she's a real bad mum if she doesn't give her child marmite!

Marmite????????? Yuck!

Funny thing was though seeing as he doesn't watch tv, he knew the words and actions to Story Makers and Razzle Dazzle

Not yuck, yum!!

Whatever floats your boat! I'll stick with blackcurrant jam ta v much. Besides - ds is a bit young for any of this just yet only 6mths old!!!

Oh no marmite is definatly yuck.

oh god SS - i'm failing my unborn child already then I can't stand the smell of marmite so they won't be haing it - cuecumber bread and celery - is he on a diet or something? -good ham/cheese sarnie's what's needed. - and as the girls say - what wrong with a treat now and again - I think it's rude to go into someone else house and ask for the tv to go off - if she doens't like it don't go around there.

when u due?

dub - beg of march.

awh congrats! my ds is pisces too 26th feb and is a really happy baby. do you know if it's a boy or girl munz?

no not yet.

well best of luck. you'll be fab! Speaking of my gorgeous little huni - I'm being summoned to feed him. Bye all!!!

i do that all knowing smile mums do who have older kids. a smugness of knowing whats to come

if she wants to me mum idol let her

nutty - whatever gets you through the day kwim?

some people can go too far in being mumsy. on the other hand maybe he had a dietry thing - dunno.

nutty dont feel inadequate at all please

some women are anal, aome arent. it takes allsorts. come on you know you are not a bad mother when you see some people dont you?!

blimey, asking to turn the tv off...
bringing your own food...
refusing cake offered...
making your child cry by refusing him cake...how rude!
for me, manners and having consideration for other people's feelings are so much more important and a far more vital lesson to almost anything else.
this sounds like the perfect outing for me, I would go home and feel exceptionally normal and have a good old bitch to dh about how neurotic she was and how much of a better parent I am! just me I guess...

ha ha ha

its because he's only 2 and the new one is under 3 months that she's exhibiting so much control

wait till the 3 month old is more demanding and the 2 year old starts to exert his authority

part of childhood is about getting cake and sweets IMO

also where's the protein in that lunch .. doesn't sound that nutritious to me .. celery takes more calories to eat than it provides and a growing child needs calories

i think she wanted people to think shes superior rather than wanting everyone to think they are inadequate - it was all about her.

Celery instead of cake? Bloody weirdo.

(child will have an eating disorder later in life, you mark my words...)

Remember...

No child is like Max Wilde.

(is that the worst advertising slogan ever?)

Ok my faith in myself is restored, have just seen next doors 5yr old Ds with his baby bottle of coke and his younger sibling telling my Ds to F* OFF.

NO COS I'M FABULOUS

she sounds a bit precious to me. don't be intimidated or feel bad, I would be mortified to be one of those parents who refused to let their child watch a single thing on TV or who wouldn't let them have a piece of cake once in a while. One of the nicest things was seeing my 1 year old eat a piece of his birthday cake! We all meet people like this from time to time. I've been lectured by one who told me "I take X everywhere with me I never feel the need to leave her at home" which was aimed at me and dh for having a weekend away together on our anniversary, and by one vegetarian friend who lectured me about "crap meat" in my sons food as opposed to hers who eats nothing but potatoes and mine who eats organic red meat - great source of iron! Just ignore...ignore....ignore!