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How do I convince my DS (2.5) to wear his new winter coat?

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Baconsarnie · 14/10/2010 13:02

Bought a lovely parka for him from M&S, similar to one he's outgrown. But he refuses pointblank to wear it. Have tried putting Peppa Pig stickers on it (which worked with his new shoes), but he still refuses. Are there any other tricks I can try? Please help, the weather's going to turn cold next week!

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ColdComfortFarm · 14/10/2010 13:07

I wouldn't bother. Suspect when he is cold he will wear it. If not, then pile on jumpers?

narmada · 14/10/2010 21:28

Mostly, I try and use persuasion, and lots of things are negotiable, but sometimes there are limits. I think in this situation I would just insist he wear it. I imagine there would be tantrums and screaming fits for the first few times but they would soon abate. Am I horrible??!

ScaryFucker · 14/10/2010 21:31

I agree with narmada

a 2 yr old shouldn't be making the decisions here

put the coat on, fasten it up and when he takes it off, put it back on

distract, distract, distract

ad infinitum...until he gets the message

yo's concentration span will soon be exhausted

now...who can help me persuade my 15 yo dd that wearing a coat is advisable ???

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narmada · 14/10/2010 21:34

scary now you see, the 15-yo thing scares me much more!

ScaryFucker · 14/10/2010 21:36

it's bloody terrifying, narmada

but then I was terrified when I had a 2yo too

AnnoyingOrange · 14/10/2010 21:36

I wouldn't bother either

belledechocolatefluffybunny · 14/10/2010 21:38

I'd make him wear it.

Does he have a favourite character? He'll have to wear his coat if he wants to be like thomas the tank engine/whatever

thisisyesterday · 14/10/2010 21:51

i wouldn't bother either.

if he refuses to put it on then take him out without it. take it with you, remind him now and then that you have it. if he gets cold he'll ask for it

narmada · 14/10/2010 21:55

My daughter wouldn't (ask for it, that is, if she was cold). She would rather go borderline hypothermic first. But quite possibly that is just her!

MrsRhettKilledTheButler · 14/10/2010 21:58

narmada is right, a lot of dc don't notice they are cold, i wouldn't give him the choice

WhatsWrongWithYou · 14/10/2010 21:59

My 15 yo ds announced this evening: 'I'm glad I wore my coat today.' this is the first time in his whole life he has uttered those words and I reminded him that between the ages of about 2.5 to 5 he absolutely refused to wear one. Was all bundled up with vests/jumpers/fleeces. (in fact, he only wore it today after a big argument reasoning session.)

He of course has no memory of this and merely replied 'i was always too cool.'

You'll feel awful and like a bad mother if you do this but I never thought it was worth the big fight as long as he was wrapped up.
Loads of Los hate the 'stiff' feeling of coats I think.

ColdComfortFarm · 14/10/2010 22:30

I'd pick my fights. Also, children are warmer than we are - they move about more. I just don't think it is worth it. I'd take it out with me and offer. Mine have all survived!

ColdComfortFarm · 14/10/2010 22:31

I would say 'chill' but maybe that's inappropriate?

Novusleaf · 14/10/2010 22:42

I'm amazed at those who say "I'd make him wear it"... my dd2 and dd3 have always been impossible to make wear something they didn't want to... you put it on, they tear if off....ad nauseam.

I've sometimes found it can work to discover someone they admire having a similar coat... oooh it's just like C's
or bribery or, my favourite this, find something they hate more, try to persuade them to wear that, and in the melee slip the less-hated item on them...

Now, any major purchase needs the child's agreement...

piscesmoon · 14/10/2010 23:00

I would wait until it is cold and he will be glad of it. I haven't worn a coat yet-I manage without until I really need to.

ColdComfortFarm · 14/10/2010 23:49

I haven't worn a coat yet either actually - not been cold enough.

KickArseQueenOfTheDamned · 14/10/2010 23:56

My ds1 refuses to wear a coat unless its actually raining so I sympathise, he always feels hot. I just say "no worries its in the buggy if you want it"

A couple of times I have forced the issue with him and each time its had a negative effect, in other words even when its been raining he won't put that coat on again.

Yes he's only 2, but really whats the point in stressing? If he was really cold he would put it on. I've got bigger battles to pick!

Tortington · 15/10/2010 02:02

put your coat on

NOW!

KickArseQueenOfTheDamned · 15/10/2010 09:55

Any good at resuss custy? :) Thats exactly how I was with both of my girls and it worked perfectly, I thought I had this parenting malarky all figured out, how smug was I!!

Then I had DS1.

He's hmm tricky to deal with if you don't want to end up in a&e.

Thats where most of his tantrums have landed him in the past 18 months.

He's not SN, so I'm not playing that "card" And I freely admit his problems are not the norm, but all the same I pick my battles very carefully because as much as he might think he won't back down I deffo will not.

When its really cold he will wear it.

Besides, He really is hot all the time, if I was hot I'd be pretty narked at having to wear a coat. :)

They're all different, do what you like - It won't matter in 10 years whether s/he was forced to wear a coat or not. :)

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Baconsarnie · 15/10/2010 11:10

Thanks for all the replies. I forced him into it the other day, but he screamed and screamed and struggled so I ended up taking it off. I just thought it wasn't worth the misery, but part of me thinks I shouldn't be bending to a two year old's will. I'll try the laidback attitude for a while then, but I think I'll crack about him being too cold before he does!

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rookiemater · 15/10/2010 14:47

Bribe him. DH got DS into his winter coat using chocolate buttons. Not saying I approve, but it did work.

GrimmaTheNome · 15/10/2010 14:52

If the weather is going to turn cold next week, why on earth are you trying to make him wear a winter coat this week? Its only just autumn!

Wait till it actually is cold before you insist.

MrsHypDip · 15/10/2010 14:54

My ds is SN so I am playing "that card", but have you tried washing the coat? My ds won't wear many things that aren't washed first. There seems to be some smell or finish to the garments that he just can't tolerate.

bumpybecky · 15/10/2010 15:02

I'd tell him that he shouldn't wear the coat.

'Come on Ds, we need to go out, don't put your coat on before we go'. Coat would then go straight on and off we go.

He is 2.9 and a contrary little bugger at the moment

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