Too close or normal?

[SuiGeneris]

Need some perspective on this and not sure I'll get it in real life.
DS is 8 months. I love him to bits and everything else has paled into insignificance. He's breastfed except for one meal a day of solids and I am in no rush to add more (DH thinks we should). DS sleeps in a cot in our room. DH would like him to move to his own room across the landing; I still get up to check DS is fine and love listening to his breathing while we're all in bed at night.
Before DS, I was a quite successful, driven, ambitious professional and even worried I might miss the excitement of work while on mat leave. Now I work 8 hrs a week and feel v sad at the idea of increasing them to 24.
If DS is not welcome somewhere (eg a wedding we've been invited to), I'd rather not go...
Is this normal?

Of course this is normal :) Having a little one around is a big adjustment and this mini person suddenly depends on you for everything! It's totally normal to want to be with him all the time. And turning down social events he can't attend is fair enough as he is part of your little family too now :) When my DS was born my partner was just like you; he didn't let him out of his sight for a minute, cut his work hours down to 10 a week so we could be with DS together and was funny about other people holding him etc!

The only thing I will say is that it is important to try and do social things without DS occasionally. I try to meet up with friends on my own once a week and my partner does the same. It's also important for you and DH to get time alone together I think.

DS is getting the best from breastmilk. There is no need to increase the amount of. Solid food he has until he seems hungrier than usual or until you feel it is right.

It's also not necessary to move him into his own room until you feel comfortable doing so. We had to move my son into his own room at 3 months when he became too big for a rib as there was not enough room for a cot in our room and I was paranoid about him at first! Obviously it's not good to wait too long as otherwise DS will find it hard to adjust to sleeping alone.

Hope this helped a bit. Best of luck and don't worry, you are normal!!

Ps bit of a typo, clearly meant to say crib and not rib, and no idea why there was a fullstop before the word solid.

Well - it is normal to utterly adore your children. I found it a bit like falling in love in a very teenagerish way - I daydreamed about them and had a silly grin on my face and could manage to get any conversation quickly back to the subject of my children. They were all I wanted to think about.

My dd is 4yo now and I have let her go a bit because she is turning in to a real person who I adore and admire. My 2yo son is still a bit of a 5th limb tbh. I physically miss him on the odd occasion I spend a few hours without him.

I am gettin around to making a point (see how I just got sidetracked talking about my AMAZING children? )

The point is, although I love them to the moon and back, and often to the exclusion of other things, I am completely comfortable with their role in my life. The fact that you have posted asking if you need perspective might mean that you know you do a bit?

There is no right answer. If you are happy and comfortable with how things are, then it is normal. If your husband's questioning of things has awakened a tiny voice wondering if he might have a tiny point, then listen to that tiny voice. Your life can accomodate revolving around your son and still leave time for the odd evening out or shopping trip or long bath by yourself.

Sui, you sound normal!

It is necessary for our survival as a species that we adore our kids so much.

This phase passes so fast - make the most of it. And tell your dh to do the same!

I am always daydreaming about my 2.4 year old DD; I love watching her play, and I have to do all in my power to not smother her in cuddles and kisses at every opportunity.

My DD has been in her own room since 8 months old and in daycare since 11 months old but it hasn't stopped me being obsessed by her. I do have a successful professional life and have had several business and holiday trips abroad without her but...

You sound so normal Sui :-)