How can I help calm down my 4 yo ds?

[ilovespinach]

DS1 4.6 is a bit of a livewire. He is a lovely boy, nursery say he has lots of ideas, is well liked by the other children - lots of positive points...

However, he has times where he will not listen and has complete meltdowns - usually when you tell me no ( I know he sounds like a spoilt brat but he isn't). We also see this behaviour a lot at home. I put him in his bedroom to calm down or walk out of the room. I guess he has a hard time dealing with his emotions?

I think he will always be sensitive and a bit highly strung. I guess I'm asking for ideas on how I can help him manage his emotions. It doesn't help that his brother is extremly laid back and DS1 always looks 'difficult' in comparison.

Ignore, distract and think "this too shall pass" has always been my approach to most things and I think it will probably apply here.

When he is a little older you will be able to discuss with him why he has meltdowns. Another thought is to try not to say "no" to him - not in an indulgent way but in an empowering way - so give him a choice - eg he wants a sweet - you ask if he's hungry - you give him a choice of a piece of fruit or a flapjack - he feels he has made a decision - you've not given in to the sweet - poor example I know, but hopefully you get the gist.

thanks :) worth a try!