first day of 'holiday' and i'm not coping- please help!!

[rdmommy]

my dh is off for a week and i already want him back at work because the kids behave dreadfully when he is around.

he works full time and i am a sahm mom. i have a really good routine and they are really happy kids but when dh is around they turn into whining, whinging attention seekers and i can't handle it.

I have made a conscious effort not to say ' they aren't normally like this' but i am at my wits end.

i have currently listening to them being bathed upstair and it is like so kind of crying circus! i offered to do it on my own but he wouldn't let me and wanted us to bath them together which is a nightmare in itself because we have a tiny bathroom and i also hate sitting there while he lets them eat toothpaste and soak the floor, which they don't do when i am bathing them.

they love their daddy so much i understand this but they do see him for about 30 in the morning and an 1hr at night and he is with us all weekend so what is the problem???!

i feel so stressed i could cry- they are 2.8 and 16 months

You need to relax a bit . Go out and let them get on with it. Does it really matter oif they eat toothpaste and wet the floor once in a while ?

I think it's a change in routine thing. Your lo's aren't used to their daddy being there during the week and their minds don't know how to handle the excitement so they go a bit crazy.
I agree with LIZS, you go out and chill for a bit, or all go out as a family, even if it's raining wrap up, get the kids welly's on and let them get horrendously wet in all the puddles!

x

My DH does things differently from me and is more relaxed about buckets of water being chucked over the bathroom (and eating toothpaste is probably a bonus). I have to let him find his way as he is a SAHD (works two night shifts) and I work three days a week. We each have different relationships (his is actually easier and she 'plays up' as such with me more) and do things slightly differently (although we more or less both follow AP) and we each have things that upset each other more (with me it's sleep) with him its trying to get 10 mins to shower.

I'd not sweat it, enjoy your time as a family, break the routine a bit - it's healthy. Make a mess, all go out if they're whining. You don't get this special time back.

Poor guy. I can just see you on here in 3 years time whinging "I never get a break becasue he never does anything to help with the kids". Let him get on with it, they won't die and neither will you. Ignore the noise and relax.

Go for a lovely walk and coffee when he's bathing them; get out for alone time each day that he is at home - even if just for an hour. But let him be a Dad to them and do it his way - it's only a few weeks a year...

Yes, get out of there and go for a walk. Go for lots of them. Then you'll get a holiday too.

Leave him to it. You have to give him time to find his own way with the kids, or you will regret it in the future.