12 week old wants to be held all the time...

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hi there, i have a 12 week old little boy who just wants to be held all the time. its prob my fault if im honest but he will scream if i put him in his swing, gym or bouncer even just to cook myself some food or to go for a wee. its not a cry either, its like he's shouting in temper so i know there's nothing wrong with him, then as soon as i pick him up he stops and he settles. its really getting to me now, my partner works nights so i have him by myself every evening and im on my own with him throughout the day as my partner is in bed. i cant get anything done!! does anyone have any suggestions? please help!!

Use a sling so he can be with you all the time

he's quite a lump though!! should i be trying to leave him cry so he gets used to it, or use a sling and give him what he wants? i really dont know what to do!!

By the time I got to dc3 I realised that this is completely normal and it passes by too quickly, I would love a cuddle now! Try and enjoy the cuddles while you can and definately get a sling.

Lots of people will say to leave him to cry but I could never do this, he will naturally want more time on his own as he gets older, like everything else it's just a phase.

Get a good sling and he'll be weightless. Much better than in your arms.

I carry my three year old happily in a sling. Try a mei tai like babyhawk or a woven wrap like storchenwiege or girasol.

Please don't leave him to cry - he is telling you he needs you. It's not what he wants it is what he needs. Let him know you are there for him no matter what and there will be much much less crying now and in the long run.

Sling.

Put him in a sling.

Ignore anyone who says 'he'll get used to it/you'll spoil him/he's playing you' etc.

There is no such thing as giving a baby too much attention or cuddles.
Research has shown that a child who feels they are getting enough affection turn out to be much happier confident toddlers.
Buy which ever sling suits you best and keep your baby close.
There are some outlets that let you hire slings to try before you buy then knock the hire cost off the purchase price. Try looking on slingmeet.co.uk. for some advise.
Good luck

I've just hired one from Slumber Roo, they were great. They'll advise.

I've got a Sleepy Wrap (like a Moby) for round the house, long walks, trips etc. Then I've just got/in the process of getting a Beco for quick, clip on and go type trips in and out of shops /car etc.

Yes. They do that those darn babies.

Wot everyone else said. He's missing you. Get a sling. You'll be happier than having him scream.

Get a cleaner. Explore safe ways of co-sleeping. He needs you. It will pass.

Yep, sling, definitely :)

this is normal and a phase, though annoying.
Get a baby bjorn type thing or wrap you'll both love it

Also, check silent reflux isn't the cause. Mine wanted to be in my arms so she could be upright. As putting her down meat lying down, she howled. Look into it, and if so, a quite upright swing chair would be valuable investment. Mine used to sleep in it quite often.