Pleas help - fully potty trained apart from nights) but will only poo in nappy

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I need help urgently, my ds is currently screaming for A NAPPY - AND HAS BEEN ON AND OFF ALL DAY. He knows when he needs a poo and wears pants all day, but when ever he needs a number 2 he asks for a nappy. My HV told me to ignore it, he'd do it when ready - but that was over 6 months ago. So I am following super nannys advice and going "cold turkey" with nappys for him today - I feel so cruel - shall I give in and let him have a nappy - he is bursting for a poo but will NOT go on a potty or toilet - help me please!

he will be 3 in december by the way and has been out of nappies in the day for over 6 months

given in - he is at this moment hiding under the stairs crapping in a nappy

same here, tried without nappies but ds became very constipated, so just gave hime the nappies, then gradually he started pooing in the toilet (4 y old ....)

thats what I was thinking to do, just ignore it and let him get to it eventually, but then I saw that article by super nanny.....

He is still little anyway - and I have got nappies around as I have a younger DS

I had the exact same problem with my dd, and it drove me to distraction - until someone pointed out to me that weeing and pooing are two different functions, and not every child is ready (either physically or emotionally) to control both at the same time. We had to give dd a nappy for a poo for 14 months after she was dry, but she got there eventually.

It sounds to me as if Super Nanny is looking at this kind of thing as being behavioural - but it's not. If you try to force him to go cold turkey you could end up giving all kinds of negative connotations to pooing, and you could also end up with a nasty case of constipation in the process.

My advice would be to relax, and let him have the nappy when he asks for it. He's not 3 yet, he's still only little and he's actually doing really well to be dry and know when he needs a poo - it would be a shame to spoil all of that by trying to force him to use the toilet.

thanks wigwambam - I agree with you. Back to nappies for a poo and a happy ds (not dp though - who thinks we are pandering to it!)

We had a similar problem. Katie has been dry for 2 weeks but was still pooing her nickers. The last 3 days she has not done this but has kept asking for the toilet when she needs a poo and then refusing to go, this was happening about 10 times a day until in the end she went. Today it has only happenned 3 times before she actually went so It does get better and they do eventually go on the toilet.

i wnt through this with my ds (now 4) and it got to the point that he wouldnt poo unless he had a nappy and he got constipated poor little love. But my friend gave me the ingenious idea of placing an opened nappy in the bottom of the potty and putting the potty. Also try puting the potty in the place he likes to hide the most when he poos in his nappy, as all kids have their own little places. it took a couple of weeks but it worked a treat.

orry spellings bad, bin a long day

Just thought I'd join in. My ds done this. The advise I've heard since is to put a nappy in a potty and then over time you should be able to not bother with the potty.

Try it - it can't do any harm?!!

It seems the more wound up you get, the more stressed about it they get.

Relax - he will not be pooing in a nappy when he is 5!!

Good luck and let me know if it begins to work with time.

God it must be getting late.

I mean in time you should not have to bother with the nappy!

Sorry