Ex reduced maintenance payments as punishment

[Bettiboo]

Hi, this is my first time on mumsnet. My ex decided to significantly reduce my maintenance payments to me starting today. We have had a private arrangment for 7 years at the same amount. I have recently gone into therapy to 'cut the ties' due to years of emotional abuse and since I'm no longer playing the 'game' I have had a range of 'punishments'. All foreseen of course, but now I have to go through the CSA and I'm worried about the time I'll need to wait and how I'm going to manage financially. I'm worried about what will come next when I don't do what he expects following this recent attempt to get a rise out fo me. Anyone got experience of an impossible ex? I'm guessing that might be a silly question!

How much does he earn and how much does he pay you?

why has it taken 7 years to cut the ties? what 'game' have you been playing?

I don't know how much he earns and he won't tell me. He has paid me the same amount for 7 years. I have asked for increases as the years have gone by but he has always refused. I've given up on that one and just accepted what I'm given. I went to the CSA today. So I guess they'll do all the leg work. It's such a shame that it's come to this.

Ah yes, I've played my part in the 'game', that much I accept. I'm stronger now and happy to cut ties and will not accept responsibility for someone elses behaviour.