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ADVICE NEEDED PLEASE

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envy26 · 30/09/2010 11:57

My husband and i have been divorced for around 6 years now. we are both happily married to our new partners and both have a child each with out new partners. we have 2 children together who visit him for 1 weekend every 3 weeks. he lives in a 2 bedroom flat that we both lived in together.
recently my daughter let slip that even tho they had bunk beds in there bedroom as well as another single bed for his son, they have since been told they need to sleep on blow up beds in the front room and there bunk beds have been sold. this has been going on since december and they were told 'not to tell mummy'. i have since told my ex husband that i am not happy for them to continue sleeping on blow up beds and maybe fold up beds would be more comfortable and a better option. He has rejected this claim and has said he will continue to do this. Im not happy they have been evicted from there bedroom, im not happy that they are in the front room hence they are up till late at night watching tv until hes ready to go to bed and im certainly not happy he swore them to not tell me. advice on this matter would really help. am i being unresonable?

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envy26 · 30/09/2010 12:21

no advice huh :(

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Hullygully · 30/09/2010 12:26

I wouldn't be happy with this. Have the bunk beds been sold to make more room? Couldn't they at least have the beds in the bedroom when they are there? If it's only 1 w/e in 3, I prob wouldn't mind that much re blow up.

theagedparent · 30/09/2010 12:27

Does not sound like he is making them very welcome by selling their beds. I would be annoyed about this too. How old are all the children? Maybe he should give up his bed and sleep on a blow up mattress himself for the weekend that your children stay.

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envy26 · 30/09/2010 12:31

yes he says the room is not big enough for 3 beds. but they had the 3 beds in there for a year and have shared the room with there brother there since he was born 2 years ago.

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envy26 · 30/09/2010 12:31

my daughter is 10 and my son is 9 (today actually! lol)

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Hullygully · 30/09/2010 12:32

But to be fair if they are only there every third w/e, it doesn't make sense to take up all the space with bunkbeds. The other child who lives there full-time needs space for toys and playing, surely?

envy26 · 30/09/2010 12:49

i see what your saying and appricate the advice. but it isnt for the time being he has confirmed this is to be the permanent sleeping arrangements.

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theagedparent · 30/09/2010 15:36

I can't imagine that a 10 year old girl would want to share with her brother[s] for much longer anyway. I suggest 1 bunk bead for whichever there is 2 of boys/girls and a sofa bed!

dikkertjedap · 30/09/2010 17:11

agree with the agedparent, sofa bed would be a good option

envy26 · 30/09/2010 21:05

thanks guys. i have since suggested this to my ex husband and he has basically told me that he will not get ride of his made to order corner sofa!

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