Father Christmas - he knows, he knows I know, I know he knows

[hanette]

So what do I do - advice please.

Before we start this year's round - ans apoligies for the unseasonal nature of this port.

My DS (10) knows The Thruth about Fr Xmas. He indulges me but 100% knows it's us.

Do i sit him down and have a chat, asking him not to tell his sister (DD 8)?

It seems so daft - I feel an idiot doing another xmas morning "oh gosh snow on the carpet" when he and I clearly know it's self-raising

Think he's going along with it for my benefit though I'm cool for us to accept the charade is over.

Whaddya reckon?

post - I meant post, not port - though at least it makes it a bit 'christmassy'!!!

What is wrong with going through the charade - older kids like the rituals of Christmas even though they know there is no Father Christmas. We still put out sherry and mince pies and a carrot for Rudolph even though at 13, 17 and 19 I am pretty sure none of them are still believers . Its just a bit of fun and a continuation of family traditions.

My 17 and 18 year olds still believe.
After all, the sherry and mince pie are gone every Christmas morning.

Just carry on with it until he mentions it to you. Just because he doesn't believe anymore doesn't mean he doesn't enjoy the fantasy.

Whadda you mean, the truth about father christmas

Sorry moomoo! this must be an awful way for you to find out. We really should have a chat about the Easter bunny and the tooth fairy too....

Father Christmas is certainly visiting our house, even though DCs are 16, 14 and 12. None of them seem to want to puncture the bubble and come right out and say it.

There's certainly been no problem with the older ones telling the younger ones. In fact the seeds of doubt were sown at school, at the age of about 6. There always seems to be at least one family that doesn't buy into the fantasy.

LOL at self-raising. Never thought of that. Good one.

I would let it go, unless you think that he would tell your 8yo.

MooMoo
This is a joke thread, a troll. Don't worry about it, of course Father Christmas exists. We are just being silly.

Sorry had to do that - what I really wanted to say was that my eldest also got to 10 before he or I acknowledged that he'd obviously worked it out. Christmas Eve that year we were sprinkling the reindeer food in the garden with his younger siblings and he took me aside 'to talk'. He said he didn't want to upset me but he knew about father Xmas, he knew I knew that and he just wanted me to know that. He said he was happy to keep going along with it for everybody else, as long as I didn't pretend it was true when there was just him around, because he's growing up now!

It was so sweet I nearly cried! He's never even hinted about letting on since and went from being a bit sulky about it sometimes to being really enthusiastic again, now he's 'in on it'.

DS1 is nearly 12 and has never let on that he may not believe. Perhaps he still does.

I suspect that although he knows the truth, he doesn't want to say it out loud in case Santa stops bringing him stuff.

DS2 (6) asked him if it was really mummy and daddy, and he said, "Yeah, right. Like they're going to buy you loads of stuff for your stocking and a present. Dur."

BTW we've always said that we buy some presents too, father christmas brings a couple of big ones if you've been really good but his main job is to fill all the stockings.

That way we're covered if anything is spotted accidentally, and it explains why there are adverts about where to buy your christmas shopping all over the tv (which our eldest repeatedly used to ask us about!)

Ah ha fab advice - thanks guys. (and sorry moo moo!)

I'm going to keep up the appearence, you're right, he probably likes the fantasy of it all (and so do I!)

I just may add a wink this year as he puts his stocking out...!