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My DS tells people I hit him.

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darcymum · 29/09/2010 17:11

He also tells me that I just hit him when I tell him off and that daddy hit him, he is 3.5. I'm a bit worried he's go into preschool and tell his teacher "mummy hits me all the time"

We don't btw.

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gowest · 01/10/2010 18:49

My DD tells anyone who'll listen that Freddie pushed her down the stairs.

Freddie is the family dog who pushed past her on the stairs when she was faffing about and fell down.

It was awful but she's really dramatic in the retelling of it.

muffint · 01/10/2010 18:54

When I went to our first big school meeting, the head teacher made a specific request that we didn't believe everything our DC said at the end of the day. Which hadn't occurred to me, I was really worried as mine says this sort of thing all the time but it seems it works the other way too, so wouldn't worry.

Dione · 01/10/2010 18:58

DS 3.6 told the nursery staff that I had a jail for him. They mentioned it and one of the other mums asked if would I mind making one for her as well.

UpsyDaisy, if you suspect your DSD is being hurt, you need to contact ss. She is a child and you are failing her and putting too much responsibility onto her by asking her to bring it to her teachers. If she can't trust the adults who love her to sort it out how can you expect her to trust a teacher.

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nannylocal · 01/10/2010 18:59

One of my charges went through a stage of telling people on the bus 'My daddy pushed me over and it wasn't an accident'!

There was a thread about this in the nanny section a while ago, where someone was convinced that the nanny had slapped their child round the face because they don't use the word slap and she couldn't poss have said it if she hadn't,in fact, been slapped! I never found out what happened to the nanny....

PixieOnaLeaf · 01/10/2010 19:03

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Goblinchild · 01/10/2010 19:06

'Hmmmm i know kids can say stuff but now im concerned... My DSD often comes to our house with bruises and 'grab' marks on her back. Social services is not an option at the min so we told her to tell her teachers... im now concerned no1 will take her seriously'

Explain further please, why are ss 'not an option at the min'? if the child is being hurt and you know about it?
If she does tell her teachers and they take it seriously, whom do you think they will contact?
If your DSD is being abused, you are the best placed person to do something about it.
Act.

Goblinchild · 01/10/2010 19:35

Sorry, I didn't mean to kill this entertaining thread.
As you were, please

QueenSconetta · 02/10/2010 11:14

BeenBeta - you'd think the sister being eaten by a pig would have given her a clue...

BeenBeta · 02/10/2010 14:58

I think the nurse had an inkling about that part of his story but it was the dramatic limping down the corridor after he had made a special trip to the nurse to tell about his broken toe that made her worry. He of course, knew exactly what he was up to. ]

DS2 has told the tale a few times to each of his new teachers/TAs.

The first Reception Year TA he told the 'sister eaten by a pig' story to thought she had a traumatised child in her class. She asked me about it in quite worried tones. Of course he had got several weeks of special hugs and allowances for that before he had been found out.

QueenSconetta · 02/10/2010 20:22

Does he actually have a sister? Be careful around pigs if he does!, x.

BeenBeta · 02/10/2010 22:22

No he never had a sister. My Dad was a farmer though and DS2 knows I looked after pigs when I was 5/6 yrs old and that pigs do eat people given half a chance.

MumInBeds · 02/10/2010 22:34

The head teacher's letter from DS's school this summer says at the bottom "If you promise not to believe everything your child says happens at school, we?ll promise not to believe everything they say happens at home!"

UpsyDaisy In my opinion, if you know a child is being abused and you do not take action to make that child safe you are as good as condoning that abuse.

upsydaisy85 · 03/10/2010 08:52

We told social services, but they said unless they have pysical evidence or the school show concern. then there is nothing they can do. Apparently the pictures we took dont show bruises enough. She had been with us 15min yesterday and we had already had her in tears as she doesnt want to go back to her mums. It was someone who works within child services who suggested if DSD was unhappy with her mum she should tell her teacher.

We're kinda running out of options, her bio-mum is very good at painting a good happy family life but DSD actions show different. We had all the windows open one day when it was nice and the wind cought the door, as soon as it slammed DSD ran under the table, she says shes used to doors slammin at home, and her mum broke the kitchen door when here stepdad when out one night.

Its not so much the physical abuse that im concrened about, its the mental abuse which is sooo hard to prove.

FallingWithStyle · 03/10/2010 22:33

How old is she?

If she is unhappy and frightened and has been bruised then I am very very surprised that ss have taken no action. Even then, that doesn't make them "not an option right now". Go back.

Better still - go for custody. Presumably dsd will state that she would rather live with her father and you. Why ahven't you done that? Cant understand how any parent could knowingly send their child back to an abusive household.

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