Day 1 potty training my dd, moral support needed!

[Lizita]

Have bought a pile of knickers.
Dd, just over 2 yo, has had her potty for a good while now and likes it and has sat on it for fun now & then anyway. But today I decided to start training her properly. She did a small wee after 15 mins sitting reading with me, coincidentally, and was very chuffed with herself, she enjoyed flushing it down the loo, did two more tiny bits of wee seemingly deliberately and flushed each down the loo. She then got bored of sitting on the potty and was very happy to try on her new knickers.
After pottering around for 20 mins with her new knickers on she did a big wee on the floor, ran to tell me straight away, knickers off, cleaned up etc, and now refuses to put a second pair of knickers on.
I totally expected the wee on the floor of course but I'm now frustrated she has an aversion to the new knickers already! She didn't even seem bothered or even notice that the first pair were wet, but was probably bothered by me pointing it out (though I didn't do it judgmentally at all, just matter of fact when explaining she should take her knickers off next time and wee in the potty).
Well, I haven't pushed the 2nd pair of knickers on, I'm well aware new things take a bit of getting used to, and she's now butt naked on my sofa. I also know I'm going to have a problem with poo because have already tried to get her to poo on the potty previously but one time ages ago that she actually did she got very upset and just says "No" when I ask her if i see her starting to push.

Actually I'm not really asking for advice, cos I know people will just say, keep at it, don't pressurise her blah blah and I know that's what I've got to do but, well, just wanted some moral support! Not really looking forward to being indoors keeping a look out for all this for the next couple of weeks!

Lizita I just came on to Mumsnet to ask advice about Big Boy Pants and then saw your post .

Sounds like you are off to a great start for first day and your little one seems to totally grasp the process which is a huge step. The thing I found hardest was my DS1 decided it was more fun to wind mummy up and refuse to use the potty even though he could!

We are now on Day 5 of potty training DS1 and he really seems well on his way to cracking it as has been peeing and pooing in his potty the last 3 days with only accident being first thing when he was just feeling non co-operative! However he just will NOT wear pants. I had bought a rake of Bob the Builder pants specially for him but he just throws an almighty fit if I try to put them on. Took him out today shopping to try to let him pick his own - there was a huge choice of all his favourite characters but he was having none of it. Bought Scooby Doo ones anyway to try and have got home to find the same refusal. Wont tell me why he just says "dont like them, put trousers on instead". Am really hoping someone has some suggestions on this, but at least you know you are not alone.

Yeah i can see deliberate refusal to sit on the potty being a problem too. She has been sitting on the potty for an hour this afternoon after her big wee on the floor reading books, is now off and I feel a wee is imminent esp as she has mentioned one a couple of times but is refusing to sit on the potty now! Any minute now she'll come running to tell me she has done one on the floor!
Why is this so stressful?? It is really hard not to make a big deal out of it too, isn't it, and to not show you're getting stressed! I don't want to put pressure on but how do you teach them otherwise? I don't know the difference between doing nothing at all and pressurising!

Hello. I am still at it too having started potty training my ds3 4 weeks ago. He has the wees pretty much sorted now - just now he even ran into the house from the garden where he was playing stark naked, and asked me where the potty was, I got it, gave it to him, he rearranged it and used it, cool as anything. Not so long ago he would have just wee'd where he stood given that he was already naked and in the garden. But poos.... now that is another matter. No further forward than you are. Sigh!

Anyway, wanted to say, good luck and I am often around to give you some moral support if you need it!

On the pants issue, I would say, don't worry about it for now. Unless you are going out, does it really matter if he is wearing pants? And if he has trousers on, does it matter even when you are out? Just concentrate on achieving continence for now.

Thanks Lonelymum - you're right! And congratulations on the progess with your DS3! I have SIL visting today and she is only newly married. Think I have managed to put her off motherhood altogether as she saw me whooping and dancing at the potty offerings of DS1!!
Hows the day going Lizita?

Well, fantastic till teatime. She did another wee (coincidentally) in the potty, then I went to cook tea and she came running in to show me a 2nd wee she had done, deliberately this time because I'd left her not on the potty. Then got her dressed inc in knickers (yay) for tea but she weed during tea, and then after tea refused to sit on the potty at all and long story short there are now several damp patches on my carpet!

How do you stay calm? There are only so many times I can say cheerfully "Next time, you can do it in your potty!" So far I'm not needing to use rewards because having a wee to flush down the toilet seems to be enough of one! Anyway, tomorrow is another day and I'm determined to be calm & cheerful throughout!!

Keep going with it - it will come eventually.

Just keep reminding, sitting them on it - for a while before I braved the first day with no nappies I would get her to sit whilst I made up a story, sang a song etc soemtimes she woudl wee and sometimes not but once they've done it a few times then it clicks.

My DD isn't great with knickers either - when they are off it is hard to get them back on!

Just keep trying and smiling!

Just pour a little water on the damp patch to dilute the wee if you're in a hurry. I have laminate floros myself but do sympathise - my sofa's pretty unhygienic.
My DD was good the first couple of days, then got fed up with my nagging (sorry, reminding) and rebelled and then on day 10 she just gave in. She also held in her poos for days at a time but that was ok because when they did come I was ready to shove the potty beneath her and hold her down and then whoop about shouting hallelujah.
Top tip: don't be tempted by a nappy for going out, just sit them on an old terry/towel on a carrier bag in the pushchair/carseat. I got hold of some old terry squares so I always had something to mop up / sit her on. Try not to give a toss what other people think if your LO wees in public - other parents will sympathise, non-parents can go jump.
Deep breath and 'Oh dear, what a mess.' Well done so far guys.

Well potty training put on hold till next week - I was very ill last night and so am not up for it today! Oh dear! Going out all weekend so i thought, better to leave it now till Monday, fresh start then with a few clear days ahead of us...
DD talking this morning about her knickers getting wet yesterday! I think she's either over sensitive or very intelligent!

Hi everyone, started intense pt again today, it's driving me up the wall tbh. Finding it a problem that I have no idea when dd is likely to wee, as she is very happy to sit on her potty for good lengths of time (over an hour even!) while reading books with me, etc, but of course have coincided those times with no wee at all, until just after getting off the potty! This morning, having given up the potty time, she told me a few times "done wee wee on potty" but hadn't, but then refused to sit on the potty when i asked (thinking she meant she needed to go). A few minutes later...wee all over the floor. grrrr! Same thing has happened this afternoon. Also she wants to go bare bum all day, sometimes is keen to wear her knickers but coincidentally at the time i wanted her on the potty, so used the knickers as a reward for wee in potty...but that hasn't happened yet today!
Makes me think she's just not ready yet or at least too rebellious at the moment to even try, but i have read so many posts saying don't give up!

ohh grrrr another wee on the floor. I just can't help getting annoyed with her and it's only day 1 and I know she can't help it! She just doesn't want to sit on the potty, has even mentioned poo poo to me and just won't sit on the potty! Why she is so happy to spend so long sitting on it reading books but refuses when she needs to! Plus her reward is to flush contents down the toilet which she loves doing (see my other posts) but that's not even motivating her. I think i'm asking too much, yes?