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mums with just boys

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want2change · 26/09/2010 21:40

i adore having boys, and am not worried about missing out on all the ballet, pink stuff etc, but i do worry about the old saying, ''a girl is yours for life, son til he finds his wife'' (or words to that effect..i worry that i wont be able to hug my boys once they have a partner (even though you would still be able to with a daughter) do you know what i mean?
do you feel the same, or does it not worry you?

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thisisyesterday · 26/09/2010 21:43

no, it doesn't worry me. i hope that i'll have a good enough relationship with my sons that they'll always want me!
and hopefully i'll get on with any future partners

nickschick · 26/09/2010 21:43

Oh dear no no no.....that scares me .

However what I have found is the girly friends from ds 1&2 stay around and i have sort of 'adopted' daughters now.

ChooksAway · 26/09/2010 22:04

My mil stayed far, far closer to her two ds than I or any of my sisters have to my dm.

mil was also far closer to our dc than my dm ever has been, even though we live fairly close to both of them.

I think old wives tales are quite often a load of bollocks :o

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Jojay · 26/09/2010 22:06

It doesn't worry me - it's far too far away to worry about that kind of stuff. So much can happen between now and then.

LadyBiscuit · 26/09/2010 22:06

look at alexander mcqueen - topped himself when his mum died. Not that I'm saying that's anything to aspire to, just that boys can stay close to their mums just as much as girls can.

Doesn't worry me at all - what will be, will be, can't change his gender after all!

bethylou · 26/09/2010 22:07

I have two DSs and hope to be a good mum and MIL. I'm aware that neither of my brothers speak to my mum very much at all but I think that's more to do with her than them. I'm already aware of things I like and don't like in what my MIL does (and I think we should keep a book here!) so that I can learn how to get it as right as possible.

ChooksAway · 26/09/2010 22:11

Actually, thinking about it, my dm is really close to my db and his dc.
Thinking about it more, I know more men who are still close to their dm than women. So the theory is completely wrong as far as I can see.

Kewcumber · 26/09/2010 22:14

nope - my brother is very close to my mother and also she has bcome very close to his wife (now ex and still close!).

Not worried becasue as the legendary Doris Day said "Che sera, sera"

BlueChampagne · 27/09/2010 13:00

Have 2 DSs as well, and am encouraging DH (1 of 2 boys) to give his Mum a big hug every we visit.

overmydeadbody · 27/09/2010 13:05

don't believe old wives' tales.

I hope my DS is independent enough not to 'need' me when he is an adult. I certainly won't be clinging to him.

MrsJamin · 27/09/2010 13:14

I too think about this. I have 2 DSs and not planning on having anymore. I just hope that we do not live too far away and I get on with the girls they choose to be with. I think I worry about it more because I have got a lot closer to my mum after having children, yet I don't think DH has. However my DM is closer geographical than MIL. You just don't know and basically... Do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. (someone clever once said that )

AMumInScotland · 27/09/2010 13:22

For every old wives saying there'll be one that says the exact opposite! I think there's just as many comments about how boys always love their mums and girls don't get on with them.

So long as you aren't acting weird and clingy, I don't see why you would suddenly not be able to hug your sons once they have partners, or why you should "lose" them.

FWIW DH is much close to his mum than I am to mine - I like mine fine, but we rub each other up the wrong way sometimes as I see my own faults in her.

So I don't see any reason to worry about it just based on gender!

jellybeans · 27/09/2010 14:30

I have both but am hoping am still close to my 3 boys when they are adults. My MIL is hideous so I know how not to be. I think I am nervous as my Grandmother always goes on about how sons don't bother and daughters are great. But I also read a study which said it means you are successful as a parent if your son leaves and becomes very independant!!

In reality, though, just as many women move away now for career reasons and i know as many men who are cloe to their mums as daughters. In my case I want to keep myself happy in my own life and plan for them to move away etc so that it won't be too hard if they clear off are rarely contact me!! MIL was far far easier to get on with when she got a job and got her own life together.

ragged · 27/09/2010 14:35

Yes it worries me a lot (I have 3 boys + 1 girl). Especially because grandchildren tend to be closest to their maternal grandparents.

Then I think I'm daft to be worrying about something so far in the future!

DH is much closer to his parents than I am to mine, btw, so perhaps it's all bollux, anyway.

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