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Solids for 2 month old baby

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mumwhatnothing · 24/09/2010 09:06

My sister in law has started feeding her 2 and half month old solids. I have never met her but know some things about her life which are Shock but I was chatting to her the other day on line and she said that her new baby doesn't really want a bottle and she can't bf because of mastitis. She was complaining that the baby didn't want to eat her solids.

I started both of mine on solids at 4-5 months but 2 and a half seems a bit too soon. Am I alone in thinking this?

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harecare · 24/09/2010 09:08

Get her to go to a health visitor/doctor today to explain her problems. She clearly needs help or the baby will get ill.

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mumwhatnothing · 24/09/2010 09:15

She is in Australia, and did the same with her 2 yo. Not entirely sure any advice from me would be welcome. I am just a little worried. My husband doesn't see the problem. He just said its up to her and I should be sympathetic cos she can't bf.

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5DollarShake · 24/09/2010 09:21

I would just say the current (WHO) advice is to wean at 6 months - maybe the reason the baby doesn't want solids is because s/he's simply not ready.

That doesn't come across as judemental - just presents the facts, and hopefully makes her think waiting a bit might be the right idea.

More concerning is the fact that the baby doesn't want milk. That deserves a trip to the GP in my book. In anybody's book, I'd have thought... Hmm

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Jojay · 24/09/2010 09:25

Can you approach it from the cultural differences angle, like,
'Isn't it weird how advice changes from country to country. Here we are told never to start solids before 17 weeks, as it can damage the gut and make the baby more susceptible to allergies' and take it from there?

I agree,she shouldn't be doing it but there's a very limited amount you can do about it, esp when she is so far away.

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mumwhatnothing · 24/09/2010 09:31

It is so hard. My husband got an earful when the baby was born because I thought she was tiny and said so. baby was 6lb 4oz. Not tiny, but mine were 10lb 3 oz and 9lb 1oz. They think I was having a go but was just amazaed at he size difference.

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mumwhatnothing · 27/09/2010 16:50

Does anyone have any ideas how to broach this? I am moving to oz in 3 weeks and she has moved back in with her parents so will be staying with her for a while. don't want to just tut and mutter in a british way.

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EdgarAllInPink · 27/09/2010 16:55

your husband is correct. best not to say anything.

the baby is unlikely to suffer any illness as a consequence - same as for formula. Jury is out on allergies. to say 'baby will get ill' is bloody ridiculous.

ruddynorah · 27/09/2010 16:58

I think actually the baby will get ill. The illness will of course be blamed on something else though.

EdgarAllInPink · 27/09/2010 17:22

upon what evidence do you base that assertion?

any baby born when i was born would have been weaned circa 10-12 weeks if they were listening to their HV...

the best you can claim is it increses the risk - and i find the evidence for this (in a FF baby) rather weak - because most studies check 'EBF' vs 'Non-ebf' rather than looking at solids as a specific thing.

woud you tell someone giving their baby forumla that it 'would make their bby ill'?

Gretl · 27/09/2010 17:25

6.4lbs isn't that tiny, and I'd have been upset if someone had said that to me, postnatally. Like it or not, comments about size come across as a judgement - that's the way it is. Best not mentioned at all.

It's worrying that the baby won't take formula. I wouldn't hesitate to say that to a mother of a 2 month old baby.

AMumInScotland · 27/09/2010 17:33

I'd be tempted to say something that sounds sympathetic like "It must be such a worry for you that the baby won't take formula or solids. What does the doctor say about it? Or do you have Health Visitors there - that's who we have here to ask about these things if we don't want to go to the GP"

Weaning onto solids isnt great, but a baby that doesn't seem to be getting either milk or solids really ought to be getting checked over.

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mumwhatnothing · 27/09/2010 18:14

the tiny comments were only because I am so used to my whoppers.

I will just have to bite my tongue. thanks everyone

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Octaviapink · 27/09/2010 19:27

It's not just about allergies, it's about the fact that it's a complete waste of time. Baby's gut can't digest solids at 2.5 months. If she wants to spoon pointless baby rice into an unwilling baby she's making both their lives more difficult, iyswim.

Gretl · 27/09/2010 20:23

Oh I know you didn't mean to upset her re the size comments - it's just one of those things to avoid!

I wouldn't bite my tongue in this case. If the baby's not taking formula or solids, it's going to get dehydrated verrrrry quickly. I would consider it worth upsetting the parents by poking my nose in, under those circumstances. No hesitation.

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