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Any other Mums of boys out there who do not crave a girl?

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Gateau · 23/09/2010 22:40

I know lots of Mums of boys who do - there have been so many threads on here about it.
But I just don't. I am so happy with my boys and feel that if I did have a girl it would upset the balance somewhat and affect my relationship with them. So much so that if I was to go for a third child (I most likely will not) I would actually prefer a boy. Nothing against girls, of course, but I just don't crave one. Obviously if I had had a girl along the way I would have been delighted, but now I have my boys I am elated and want for nothing more.
Am I in the minority?

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Bradyboo · 23/09/2010 22:43

I am expecting DS 2 and am so pleased - if only could find a name for him!

Tiddlybear · 23/09/2010 22:45

Agree - really happy with my 2 boys and couldn't imagine what it would be like to have a girl. Don't feel I have missed out.

LittleCheesyPineappleOne · 23/09/2010 22:47

I honestly hand on heart did not crave a girl, and that wasn't my plan when we TTCed for our third child. I always fancied the idea of a gang of three DSs. When I found out we were having a DD, I was honestly a bit freaked out. I'm sure she'll be lovely though.

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cupofcoffee · 23/09/2010 22:52

well, I've got an 8 month old dd now but if I turned the clock back a bit I did not crave a girl in particular. My older 2 are boys and I wanted another baby but a boy would have been fine with me. I have to say that I did have some kind of thoughts that a girl might not have quite the same bond as I have with the boys but when dd arrived I am pleased to say she does!

TheCrackFox · 23/09/2010 22:58

I am very happy with my 2 boys. TBH if I had had 2 girls I am sure that would have been lovely too.

I feel my family is complete now.

FortiesCromarty · 23/09/2010 22:59

You're not alone. If I'd been asked before DS2, I would have said I'd like a girl. Now I'm very happy with 2 boys, if I had another child I'd really love another boy (couldn't be doing with all that pink stuff ).

DirtyMartini · 23/09/2010 23:00

Bit like LCPO we had a DS first, and I was rather taken with the notion of being a Mum of Boys, and also just thought he was so amazing that I couldn't imagine anything other than having another boy ( at myself, as if they would've been clones or something looking back I think I was being a twit)

I was a little worried when I found out DC2 was a girl ... I think the real reason is that I was a bit scared the mother/daughter relationship might be hard to get right, because for years my mum and I used to clash (we are fine now).

But I got over it fast, and realized that was bullshit, just one of the many fears that you pick up in life that turn out to be complete non-issues unless you make them into self-fulfilling prophecies. There is no more reason why my relationship with DD has to follow any particular pattern, than there is with DS. I think it will be fine, they are both officially the world's loveliest children and all is well

elastamum · 23/09/2010 23:01

I love my boys!! I am a single parent of 2 boys 11 and 9. I just cant imagine what life with girls would be like and have never craved a girl - guess that just me, although I have have brothers and no sisters so was bought up in a very male household

MollysChambers · 23/09/2010 23:07

I think most parents just like the family they get - whether all boys, all girls or both. Also once you have a house full of one sex it is very hard to imagine it any other way.

llareggub · 23/09/2010 23:09

I was pretty shocked to discover DC1 was a boy. I'd never imagined life with a boy. Now, two boys later, I couldn't imagine life with a girl and like the OP I'd actively prefer another boy if we ever have a 3rd, but I think this is more for practical, boring reasons.

I'm sure if we did have a girl it would bring a wonderful, unexpected dimension to our family and we'd love it and not look back, but right now I'd prefer another boy.

SoMuchToBits · 23/09/2010 23:12

I have 2 sisters and no brothers, so was very much brought up in a girl-orientated household. When expecting my child, I very much wanted girl, as that was what I was used to. However, he turned out to be a boy! !

But 9 years down the line, I have very much got used to having a boy, and now can't imagine having a girl. I love ds so much, and love doing all the boy stuff with him. I'm sure I would hav ben fine with a girl, but I think to some extent you get used to what you have, and end up enjoying life anyway....

moajab · 23/09/2010 23:14

I have three DSs and in all my pregnancies all I wanted was a healthy baby and was not fussed either way about the sex. Contrary to what everyone thinks DS3 was a surprise, not a last ditch attempt for a girl. I am very happy with my three lovely boys and know how lucky I am to have them.

toomuchmonthatendofthemoney · 23/09/2010 23:22

I love my ds and was thrilled he was a boy. Could not imagine a girl now, am so happy with him. Maybe cos i am a bit of a tomboy at heart with older brothers, love Lego, hate dolls! so suits me to have a boy!

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 23/09/2010 23:26

I really wanted DS to be a boy and I was delighted when he was - and he is such a lovely sunny, loving little chap.

I'm pregnant with DC2, and I feel really strangely about the possibility that it might be a girl. My Mum and I have quite a destructive relationship, we love each other and get along well but she did huge damage to my self-esteem when I was younger (I now realise looking back) and I would hate to think that I would somehow do that to my daughter.

mummyflood · 24/09/2010 08:01

I have 2 teenage boys, no dreams of having a girl. They are as different as can be, and I can't imagine life being any different. We are blessed.

eatyourveg · 24/09/2010 08:04

I have 3 boys and would have panicked if one had turned out to be a girl. I know nothing about girls. They are a rarity in my family, I only have brothers and uncles. So glad I didn't break the mould.

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WoTmania · 24/09/2010 10:28

I have 2DSs and 1DD. While she is lovely and I wouldn't swap her now I have her I never ever wanted girls.
You are not alone. (she's gorgeous and cute and funny though I'm rather in love with her)

JoandMax · 24/09/2010 11:27

I have 2 boys and love it! We didn't find out the sex with either and I did get a lot of comments about wishing it was a girl.. Errr no, just a healthy baby please!

We would like a 3rd so I am preparing myself for the many comments already. We just want a 3rd, there would be absolutely no disappointment if it was a boy, in fact I do rather love the idea of a whole gang of them.

But I think whatever DC you end up having that's what seems normal to you as they 're here and their own wonderful little person so you can never imagine them being anything else or anything being better.

Roo83 · 24/09/2010 11:28

I completely agree, I had ds and then became pregnant again. Everyone kept saying to me, 'oh I bet you want a girl dont you,' one of my friends even said 'every woman wants a girl, boys just arent the same'.

I really would have been happy with another boy though. Ds is so loving and has such a great, fun loving personality. I also thought it would be nice for him to have another boy to play with, and they'd be more likely to be into similar things/share friends etc.

However, I did end up having a girl, and of course I love her to pieces, every bit as delighted as I would have been with another boy!

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woofie · 24/09/2010 18:54

I adore being mum to boys (2 ds-es and a dss!). We found out the sex at 20 wks when I was pregnant with ds2 and, while I did have a brief moment of sadness that I would probably never have a daughter, I was simultaneously delighted at the prospect of another gorgeous, affectionate baby boy (and he is!). In fact, so lovely that we're sort of contemplating a third, and this time I'd actively prefer a boy.

mooncupflowethover · 24/09/2010 19:57

I am besotted with my 2 DS's, totally, boys are amazing. I'm the only one in our family with boys and I feel secretly smug about it .

UniS · 25/09/2010 20:32

I don't.
Boys are fab.

wb · 25/09/2010 21:02

I have 2 ds and crave a 3rd child. I'm actually a bit scared of the idea of having a girl (yes I am one but always felt more comfortable with the idea of boys) but I wouldn't, for example, be 'gutted' to have a girl, although the same may not be true of ds1 and 2.

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