Knows what to do but on a bit of a power trip!

[Swirl]

Am in middle of second attempt to train DS2 who is 26 months. He asked me to bring the potty in the other morning so think he is ready for training. He knows all of the steps : use potty/wipe/empty potty/flush/wash/dry hands and gets rewarded with a sticker and a raisin (which he adores). He has done plenty of pees and even some poos in potty and received huge praise for it. However he now seems on a bit of a power trip and is refusing to sit on the potty at all. Just stands in front of you and deliberately pees on the floor, then laughs and runs off. Have just been saying " try and get it in the potty next time" but he just laughs again. ARRGGH!! Hes only 2 and hes already the boss. Any advice? Thanks

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don't let him see that it bothers you. Ignore him. Seriously or it'll get worse!

i know i shouldnt react but if i just leave him to it he is going to flood us out! do you think i should leave it again?

Maybe give yourself a time limit - 5 days or so, and keep ignoring till then. If he is still really misbehaving then I'd try a different route!
Does he understand that he's not getting any rewards with his method?

Thanks for the reply Cupcakes. By the end of today overall there was one more wee in the potty than on the floor so am feeling a bit more optimistic. Yes he does know hes not getting any treats if he "misses" but I think its just he still gets a kick out of defying! Will try and keep calm and as you say give it a few days. Off to console myself with a glass of wine now.

I'd normally agree to be as nonchallant as possible and just clean it up without a word ... however, if you really think he's deliberately defying you then you could try calling his bluff ... tell him that it's such a shame that he can't manage to use the potty like the big boy that you know he really is, and isn't that a pity because it means he'll have to go back into nappies now like a baby. If he really is only doing it to be defiant, the chances are he'll be back onto that potty in a flash.

why is he doing it? have you asked him? not when he is running away, or when he is about to/has just weed. But at a quiet moment, like when you are reading to him, or sitting at the table with him. Ds1 is about the same age, and we talk through everything with him, and he generally understands way more than you'd guess. For example, he was ready, like your ds, but insisted on carrying on in nappies. I asked him why he used nappies when he knew he could do it in the potty, and he said quite simply that he liked having someone changing him and spending time with him! When eventually we went for it (he was still insisting on nappies, but said to dp while he was changing him "Daddy, can you hurry up and put my nappy back on because I've got a wee wee coming" and I decided then and there no more nappies!) we had a chart in the bathroom - lots of clouds and we moved a toy plane up through the clouds every wee, with a treat every 2 or 3 wees at first, and eventually every 8 or so. He'd got it long before we reached the top!

Will definitely try and have that chat Fisil - DS is a fantastic communicator and as you say the time to talk is not when he is in the impish mood but a quiet time. I have a 17 week old baby as well so would just love to get this to work out and have only one in nappies.
WWB will keep your suggestion up my sleeve for later in the week. It may well work out but am scared if I used it too soon he might just take me up on the offer.

swirl, my baby must be about 17 weeks too (totally lost count of weeks, but he'll be 4 months next week!). And yes, it is wonderful having only one in nappies!

Just a quick update. Generally things going alot better today (7 pees in potty, 3 in trousers). As soon as he is shown the potty he insists he will not sit on it but with using your idea Fisil of the clouds I get him focused on it and before he knows it he is relaxed on the potty, and can pees happily He is getting a tiny farm animal for every second cloud. It is still flipping hard work though. This has to be on a par with early days of breastfeeding and then sleep training!