No life at all

[BabyAnnabelle]

I have a 6 week old baby. my first baby.

i am loving being a mum and my baby is a very good baby so i know i have been lucky. the thing is i literally have no life at all.

i dont know if this is normal but i have a very strange mum who tries to make me jealous by telling me how shes always busy doing things and going places and makes out to me that i should be doing more, going places and having more fun (with my baby or without sometimes too). the thing is my baby still eats every 3 hours so i dont have much sleep, and i find sometimes a day out can unsettle her in the evening, she is much calmer when we just mainly stay in and go on dog walks.

does anyone else feel like they dont have much of a life since having their first baby? or do you just make yourself go out and do things? i dont know if my mum has a point or not.

i just went out and did things!

what did you do before yo had a baby? babies are fairly easy to get out and about with i found, esp if you are breastfeeding cos then you don't have to worry about being able to warm milk up etc etc

why not see if there are any mum and baby groups nearby?

But your baby is only six weeks old! I think you are probably supposed to be fairly centred round him at that stage. Could your mum be a wee bit jealous? Its possible.

In a little while you will probably go to toddler groups and suchlike, and get out more. There's no rush. Just be happy and don't question it.

At some point your baby will be able to go about 4 hours between feeds (probably at about 4 or 5 months)

Then everything gets much easier and you can go much further afield.

Go easy on yourself and enjoy your baby.

Your Mum does sound a bit odd.

DO NOT let your mum mess with your head.
Everyone does this differently. Some people DO get out and do normal things at this stage. I tried. I succeeded while ds was so teeny but I crashed and burned quite quickly.
If I ever did it again I would just go with the flow tbh. Nobody is going to look back on the first few months and say 'well i am SO glad I could do a weekly shop/go to the pub, I really derive my happiness from those facts'.

It is basically quite a challenge and everyone needs to do it in their own way at quite a sedate pace (generally).

At that stage I rarely even left the house... nor did I want to... that was valuable time that could have been spent trying to grab a nap! Ignore your mum and do what is easiest for you & baby. There will be plenty of time to go out and do things later when your daughter is older, and she demands to be let loose on the world every day!

Hi I wish I hadn't felt that I should be trying to get my life back to normal when my first was a baby.I was always trying to do what I thought a mother should do with her time;trying to think what my mother or my mother in law would have done;but I look back and wish I hadn't put so much pressure on myself.You're a different person to your mum,and need to do what feels right for you at the moment. The most important thing is you do what you can to help you get through this tiring time.My mum has always asked me what my plans are in the kids holidays;which used to annoy me,because it used to make me feel I should be planning more,but I just ignore it now.She's different to me;she needs to plan,I,m happier doing things on the spur of the moment.

Just enjoy your baby.

If you're managing to get out of the house for walks each day then you're doing well.

Sleep when the baby sleeps. Ignore your mum.

It gets easier quicker than you can possibly imagine at the moment.

I was only just at the daily showering and teeth brushing stage by 6 weeks. We did get out of the house a bit, but I left a trail of carnage in my wake whilst trying to get organised.

Just take it easy and pop out as and when you feel like it. Dog walking sounds lovely, you don't have to be hauling the baby out for visits to friends, to cafes or the supermarket all the time.

Do it at your own pace.

with ds1 at 6 weeks old i was doing well to get out of pj's by lunch time! enjoy your baby. you'll soon find time to go to toddler groups and baby massage things!

join a local post-natal group and wander down

make new friends in the same position and enjoy them and your baby

learn to say "yes mum" with a beatific smile