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Newborn baby girl - completely overwhelmed..

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BabyAyla · 09/09/2010 06:57

Hi,

Im sure you have heard this story before, however I'm really feeling as if I'm going insane and I can't deal with this anymore. My baby girl is 11 days old today and won't sleep much at night, she sleeps long during the days. At around 10pm she starts her hysterical crying sessions and seems to be constantly hungry. She wants to be held and fed the whole night through. I feel so alone, so stressed, anxious, sad, and sleep deprived. I feel like I'm not bonding with her and I feel as if I'm blaming her when she won't settle, in short I feel like a bad mother. During the day I feel as if I can't hold back the tears. I wonder if this will ever be better, will I ever feel happy again? I do get support from my hubby and mum who has stayed with us for the last 2 weeks. However their help is limited because I'm bf and she needs me, every time. Mum said I should let her cry and deny her the feed she wants, I think this is wrong and its causing more stress.

I don't know what to do anymore, I guess I don't have a choice I have to see this through until things get better, I hope they do.

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cucumbersandwich · 11/09/2010 21:18

I also could have written this post 4 months ago. When my LO was born she never stopped crying unless she was feeding. Once I sat down to feed her at 12noon and was still there at 12 midnight! I also didn't feel I bonded with my baby or she liked me until about 6 weeks when she smiled. In fact it got so much for me that I went to stay with my parents for 2 weeks so someone could at least hold her in between feeds. It was also nice when they took her out in the pushchair for an hour (it went so quickly, but was at least a break!) I also got used to never having time to myself, which I found really hard at first.

Currently she is lying in her moses basket happily playing with a toy on her own so it does get better, promise!

Orissiah · 04/11/2010 09:02

BabyAyla, how are things going with you and your DD now? Better?

mamsnet · 04/11/2010 09:43

BabyAyla

A pp gave some brilliant advice about training your baby the difference between night and day.. I think a lot of it might sort itself when you clinch that one.

And I don't know if this has been said (skimmed a bit.. sorry) but you need to get that baby out in daylight every day.. It is exposure to light that teaches them to regulate. And if it´s absolutely impossible to get out, plonk her in front of the window..

OOps.. just realised how old this thread is.. Hopefully you're well sorted by now!

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