My almost 4yr old ds is by the sounds of it being bullied at nursery. I have spoken to them and they assured me they are working with ds and other boy to try and resolve issue.
Ds reacts or overreacts instantly. But sounds like it is more one sided than both.
Separately today at playpark restaurant ds was punched in tummy by a boy smaller than him! He burst into tears. The other boys dad came over and shouted at him made him say sorry and took him away.
I said to dh that we ought to have a conversation about how we are going to encourage ds to stick up for himself. But dh when taking ds to toilet told him if he gets hit and it's not his fault, ie he hasn't done anything tonprovoke it to hit back 
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I'm quite honestly very angry! I was bullied all through primary and some of secondary school but obviously I don't want him to be bullied and to be able to stick up for himself but I'm sure he is not mature enough to handle his emotions and to judge when is right to hit.
I have made perfectly clear to dh that I'm not happy about how he has handled it but as he is now going away for the week am trying not to have a full blown argument as we obviously disagree!!
Sorry soo long but does anyone have any suggestions on how to talk to my ds about it and 
my dh!!