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Original poster

Right ds is four now and still loves to put his hand on my chest for comfort. Any ideas when he will stop doing that?

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emkana · 04/09/2010 23:19

I do encourage/ask/tell him to stop but with varying degrees of success - depending on tiredness/level of upset he's feeling.

Has anybody experienced similar?

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MarsLady · 05/09/2010 03:55

DT2 is 6.5yrs. He still does it. I figure he'll outgrow it eventually.

huffythethreadslayer · 05/09/2010 06:40

My dd is NINE (yes, 9) and has gone from touching my boobs at 5 and 6 to bouncing her head on them now. Apparently my new padded tee shirt bra is really fun to bounce on

She's always been slighly obsessed with my behemoth chest!

redderthanred · 05/09/2010 08:18

My DD does it. Shes coming up for 5. She tells me daily she loves my boobies because they are soft and ' punchy'

When we have a cuddle, especially at night or first thing in the morning she always wants to cuddle or stroke them.

She was breastfed till almost a year. I just assume its something to do with that as she doesnt have any other obsession about other body parts.

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RedFraggle · 05/09/2010 15:03

I breastfed DS and DD until 6 months each. But only DS has the breast-fixation

theQuibbler · 05/09/2010 15:34

Sometimes I really love this site - it can put your mind at rest.

My four year old does this and I was convinced I'd done something wrong for him to be still t it. He does it when he's tired and sleepy - one hand straight down my top.

I've been gently discouraging him since he was about 2 yrs old, with no discernible effect.

So pleased to realise he's just normal and will grow out it.

He was breastfed till he was about 15 months for survey purposes

fattybum · 05/09/2010 17:03

My ds1 did this till about 2, probably only stopped because I had to breastfeed ds2.

Ds2, now just 2, does it, but knows he can only do it at home. I find it quite irritating by now, but it's quite hard to stop him!

PYT · 05/09/2010 17:11

Are you happy with it?

I have to be honest - I wouldn't be. I think at 4 yrs of age he is well old enough to be taught some boundaries. I'd gently start introducing him to the idea that breasts - as well as for feeding and comforting children - are also private parts of a person's body.

MrsBadger · 05/09/2010 17:34

dd did this till she was 2ish (stopped bf at 18m ish) and was for a long while still fond of resting her cheek on my decolletage (ie above my neckline, not my actual boobs) when having tired cuddles

however she has now (3.1) become inordinately fond of my glasses, and likes to stroke them before going to sleep

Flowergarden1 · 05/09/2010 20:44

My four and a half year old does this all the time - in public and in private. And yes, he breastfed until he was two and a half.

bytheMoonlight · 05/09/2010 21:40

I only bf till dd was 3 months and dd finds my boobs a comfort when fallin asleep. She is 2.10 months

Dancergirl · 05/09/2010 22:39

Not just boys - my 3.5 year old dd does this too!

laundrylover · 05/09/2010 22:59

My DD2 is 4.5 and is boob obsessed but I have got her to do it only at home.

She comes in bed every morning for a cuddle and addresses each one seperately. Last week she called one Boo and the other Bee. V inventive I thought!

It doesn't really bother me - if she does start to reach up in public I just move her away quietly.

She stopped bfing on her 3rd b'day by mutual agreement. DD1 bfed until 8 months and cares not for boobs!!

TBH I like the cuddliness esp as DD1 is going thorugh a horrible stage ATM and is not very loving at all...it will pass...it will pass!

champagnesupernova · 06/09/2010 07:45

My DS is nearly 2.5 and was breast fed until 12m
He still does it -despite me pulling his hand out 98% of the time .
I'm preg with DC2 - how did any of you do BFing a second time?
I've been trying to get him to understand about the baby - which I think he does but I'm not sure whether he gets where the baby will feed from.

LarkinSky · 06/09/2010 11:32

DD does this, and she is 18 months old. I bf her for 12 months.

I'd quite like her to stop, as she actually makes a grab for my nipples half the time, but as she only does it when she's upset or very sleepy, it's a hard time to make a scene pulling her hand out as she'll then start wailing and flaying around...

She does it to other women she's close to too - her Nanna, Granny, Auntie etc... She also tries putting her hands down DH's T-shirts, but doesn't find much comfort there on his hairy chest

She does love my boobs, and if she sees me topless getting changed or whatever, she gives a gasp of admiration saying 'Mummy'!

Anyone actually take a hard line and force a toddler to stop putting their hands down their bra? Or did you all wait for them to grow out of it?

LEMONADEGIRL · 06/09/2010 13:52

DS neary 4 is having a cuddle now as I try and type with his hand up my top - he was breastfed until 2 also must be releated

I do try and discourage him now he is older but he tends to doit when tired

ZephirineDrouhin · 06/09/2010 14:45

You are all such good mothers. I am terrible - dd does this too but it drives me nuts, so of course if she's feeling tired/naughty/bored she does it all the more as it's the quickest way to get my attention/wind me up.

Am very glad to read this thread - clearly it's something I need to calm down about.

MissWooWoo · 06/09/2010 15:09

My dd (3.3) does it sometimes and I stopped bf her at 10 months. I just gently remove her hand and hold it in mine, carrying on the conversation without saying anything.

ilovesprouts · 06/09/2010 15:13

my ds2 whos 3.9 does this some of the time but he was never bf tho and he trys to bite my boobs too !!:)

RedFraggle · 06/09/2010 16:59

champagnesupernova bf second time around is ok.
I had a 2 year age gap and DD adapted very quickly.
I read a tip somewhere that suggested having a box of special toys + books which were only played with when you were breastfeeding child two.
This worked really well for us. I would feed DS with DD cuddled up on the other side of me, and would read her a story or she would play with her special toys in the room with me, while I talked to her.

We had no problems at all. In fact she was desperate to help with getting muslin cloths etc.
Congratulations on baby 2!

MigGril · 07/09/2010 21:49

DD does this a lot, deffantly a comfort thing. She's 3 and was BF till 2year 10monhs, I do wonder if this is why as she always like to prod them when feeding.

A bit worried she's still going to be doing it in a couple of months when I have a new baby and huge soure boobs from milk coming in. I haven't managed yet to stop her, even though I keep saying no and pulling her hand out.

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