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DS aged 4 just got "lost" for 5 mins in supermarket

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CurlyhairedAssassin · 02/09/2010 12:44

I left him looking at the fish at the fish counter and told him to stay there as I was just going to get some packaged salmon which was a few paces away. I turned back and he was gone. Not in any of the aisles nearby. Cue mild panic arising.....I shouted his name really loudly a few times and expected him to come running, or shout me, but he didnt.

Was getting more panicked by this time remembering that poor little girl in Germany years back who disappeared in a supermarket and has never been seen since. I was also thinking "God, now if there's some wierdo perv witnessing this, they now know my son's name and if they find him first and use his name he'll assume they're safe to go off with."

I told a couple of staff members who went to alert security at the door in case he'd wandered out. By this time people were starting to stare at me running up and down the aisles looking worried sick and shouting his name, and a lovely lady shopper came and said "have you checked the toy aisle - that's where mine have always been if they wander off? I'll go and see if he's there."

Eventually after what seemed like ages but was probably only about 5 mins after he'd gone missing, one of the members of staff motioned to me to come down to the tills, and there he was with the lady shopper who'd suggested I check the toy aisle.

Such relief!!!! Apparently he'd gone looking at the Nintendo DS's. Hmm After thanking the ladies who'd helped find him, and letting my legs return to their normal unjelly like state (!), I told him that he shouldn't wander off like that as it was very dangerous.

"But I couldnt see you so I went to look at the DSs."

He obviously had no plan of what he was going to do after that if he still couldn't see me. And absolutely no awareness of the dangers of wandering off on his own.

DS1 was never like that - he was born sensible and stuck to my side like glue in shops etc at that age. He just NEVER would have wandered off to a far part of a shop to look at something just cos he felt like it. DS2 is too big to sit in the trolley now, but is naturally bounding about with energy and will never walk if he can run - short of putting him on a lead I don't know what I can do. He just doesn't seem to see the DANGER of getting separated from me, he thinks he's invincible I think! After he went missing today I tried telling him that a nasty man could have seen he was on his own and taken him away and smacked him hard every day and he would never see me and the rest of the family again, and he just said "But there are no nasty men in Tesco, mummy!"

How on earth do you get a child who is the opposite of sensible to be aware of "stranger danger"?!??

Another example of "opposite to sensible": the other day we were in the park and I told him to mind the nettles which we were walking past because they would sting if he touched them. "They won't" he said, and put his hand slowly to them all the while staring me in the eye defiantly. He DID touch one even though I was telling him not to, and either it wasn't a nettle (looked v like one) or it was part of the leaf which didn't have any stinging hairs on. So he just said "See - didn't sting me!"

He just has no sense of self-preservation!

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RobotHamster · 06/02/2015 13:27

Gah, still no zombie thread alarm then? Wink

LittleLionMansMummy · 06/02/2015 13:30

2010!!!! Blush

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 06/02/2015 13:35

Dh and I lost ds1 in the Harrods Food Hall once (one-upmanship in child losing!!Grin). He was in the back of the double buggy, dh was choosing cheese, and moved a little way down the counter, whilst I headed off to the book department, and ds1 decided to free himself from his straps and follow me.

Of course he lost me in the crowds immediately, but by then he was out of dh's sight too. Dh realised he was missing, and raised the alarm, and within minutes a security guard brought ds1 back. I knew nothing about it until I met up with them again!

dotdotdotmustdash · 06/02/2015 21:14

Once upon a time one dark winter evening, while I was at work, my DH took my DS, then 9 and my DD of 7 to a large supermarket. My DS was looking at the books and wouldn't budge so DH got impatient and told him he was moving on and threatened that he would leave without him.

It was an hour before my son was seen again.

What happened? True story - my DS eventually looked up from the book and saw that his Dad wasn't there. He ran to the front door of the shop, and reckoned he saw a car like ours driving away (it wasn't ours). He became distressed and a woman stopped him and asked what was wrong. He obviously told her that his Dad had left him and gone home. What would most sensible members of the public do? Take him to the customer service desk, I would presume?

Not this lady - she put him in her car and let him direct her to our house, which was empty. He then managed to direct her to my DM's house and she answered the door to this woman who ranted at her about how disgusting it was that anyone could abandon their child in Asda!

My DM phoned DH on his mobile. The shop had staff searching everywhere, the tannoy was going constantly and they were about to call the police.

My Ds went on to be diagnosed with Aspergers shortly after as it was an example of the 'literalism' that was a feature of our life with him. I never did report it to the police, although in hindsight I should have. I didn't hear about it until after it was all over and I was so glad that he was safe and well.

feezap · 13/02/2015 07:20

I really really hope my DS isn't as oblivious as I was as a child when he gets a bit older.

My parents lost me on the crowded beach at studland, I had been playing by the sea and got confused on the way back to where we were sat.

Cue major panic from my mum and frantic searching amongst the crowds. They found me happily playing in the sand sat next to a wind break (it was the eighties) the same as ours waiting for them to come back. The relief was tinged with embarrassment, I had wandered to the nudist part of the beach Blush

I have always found this story quite funny, although now I have a DS of my own I am starting to see the other side. OP, that sounds so scary for you, I think my parents showed that they were so upset that I learned my lesson but I was still a bit of an oblivious child.

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