My husband and I have decided we probably need some new rules in our house as our 6 yr old dd is starting to become not so nice, and I'm not sure really sure what rules we should have to help.
She doesnt listen, which I know most children don't at times, but she really doesnt listen - I will be telling her off for something .e.g she blatantly lied to me the other day and I tried to tell her it wasnt on and that it is so importent to tell the truth , but she is 'busy' while im talking to her - you know looking at a book , picking something off the floor - not actually looking at me and taking in what I am saying. Ive tried holding her hands and looking at her in the eye but she just gets all cross and tries to wriggle free.
My husband ends up really shouting at her to get her to listen, which I dont like , but he says Im too soft and if thats what it takes to get her to do as she's told then thats what we should do.
I'm not sure what to do as a consequence of her behaviour. Because we dont really have any hard and fast rules, I feel like I dont have anything to take away, or to get her to work towards. She's too young to get to play ourside, so I cant 'ground ' her. If I put her to bed early she really isnt bothered, she just goes to bed in a bad mood and then falls asleep. They dont watch much t.v so there is no restiction on times - if they want to have it on they can. Does anyone having a certain amount of time they watch tv a day - does this work ?
PLease share your ideas with me , how do you get your children to behave, what do you give to reward good behaviour and what do you do as a consequence of their bad behaviour?
Hopefully someone will be able to help me. Thanks in advance xx