am I normal? ds is 7mo old now and am feeling bit weird......

[MrsMc82]

Not sure where to start really -
For the last month I've been so lazy and found any excuse to have a PJ day at any given oppoortunity and now I'm feeling less and less inclined to get out and do stuff with DS, excuse is that its better for DS as we've got a lovely little routine going where he sleeps beautifully iin his cot in the day (FINALLY!!) and there's plenty of time for him to play etc..... But really I just can't be bothered getting dressed, I'm not that fussed about seeing anyone, its a faff geting DS in and out of the car/buggy ect to go places and I'm loving finding time to sit my bum on the sofa and watch crap telly........ But I am feeling quite guilty about it (actually have just posted in another thread that I'm loving being a housewife atm but for last month I've not really been much of a housewife even, ie done bare minimum of cooking cleaning washing ect too.....) feel like I'm stuck in a bit of a rut with it.....
First 6months with DS (pfb) I flitted around here there and everywhere going to groups and meeting friends and seeing family and doing something most days, (too much really in hindsight but feel like I was manically running around doing what I think a mummy should be doing,trying to be perfect housewife and also showing off my lovely baby to as many people as possible) it got to a point when he was about 3/4 months old and I realised I was scared about being alone all day at home with him but once I got his daytime naps in his cot sorted this became easier and I'd try and stay a home once a week..... Anyway about a month ago I'd had a REALLY busy week and so the next week finally listened to DH who'd been telling me to stop trying to do too much for ages and had a proper PJ day (no cleaning, cooking ect, literally just me and DS playing and me with bum on sofa watching this morning in his naps)........ And even tho I felt guilty about it I liked it....... now the pj days are taking over and I really can't be bothered doing anything, I kind of feel like first 6months were exhausting from doing so much and I just want to be at home now and not bother getting dressed and not see anyone but not sure this is normal or healthy either.....
Also going back to work feels like its looming (10weeks away) and no idea how I'm going to get myself organised and oiut of the house for that.......
Sorry this is a bit long and rambling but really not sure what's wrong with me...... Its easy to say, right just go out and see people and get out of the rut but the thought of doing that feels a bit scary right now and like far too mucy effort and I don't want end up doing too much again so feels safer just to be at home..... God I sound like a crazy don't I?

I feel similar sometimes. I have a almost 7 months old and a 5 yo. We have been stucked at home for almost 4 weeks due to diseases, and it is scary to go back out again. It is overwhelming and exhausting just to think about it.
It has happenned in the past when I had only 1 DD too. It is easier now as the 5 yo goes up the walls if we don't go out for the day. But I have to force myself to do it.
Just do small steps, go out to buy a treat for you (or DS) at the nearest shop and then come back home (to enjoy it! ), you will see it is not that difficult! next day go to the nearest park (i.e. you don't have to talk to anybody if you don't want to) or a short walk....Then you can build on that and do bigger steps the following days.
It doesn't seem like you are depressed just a bit fed up and tired (but could you be?), if you have doubt go see your GP.
Any new step with your first child is a bit scary and need a bit of time to adapt, so it is normal to feel overwhelm by going back to work. You will find that you will adapt very well, and will manage to be organised. .
I don't think you are crazy, but my nickname is going against me on that
good luck.

Hi, just wanted to say I don't think you are crazy at all, from what I can tell. You are going back to work in 10 weeks as you say and maybe deep down you just want to enjoy this time with your DS? I would just relax and do what you feel like... this time is precious as you know and will pass so quickly. I have a 9 month old and keep myself really busy - I have to tell myself to slow down sometimes and then I usually have a nice time at home. It's tiring looking after a baby - your post has actually inspired me to spend more time at home! If you're enjoying it, I'd just carry on. :)

Doing nothing is fab, nothing to feel guilty about. 7mo won't care whether you're doing stuff or not. Enjoy it before the rush of going back to work starts

i have a 2.8 yo and 3mo, and limit myself to doing one thing a day, max, and that might just be going to the supermarket. Realising you don't have to do anything is very liberating

Thanks ladies...... Am gradually easing myself back into the real world!!! Went for a little wander yesterday and Have got plans to go my mums this afternoon - and the best new
s is that there. No pjs in sight!!!!! Am dressed and presentable!!!!!

Was slightly worried that I might be having symptoms of pnd (had mild mental health issues in past - eating issues and low moods - so felt suseptable) but as mamaloco said I think I'm more tired and fed up....Also read on another thread about someone feeling similar (whod had depression inpast) and that they know they're not depressed as when they compare to how they felt in the past its nothing like it - found that v helpful too - when I compare my fed-up-ness to the sheer shitty despair Ive felt in the past when dealing with my eating issues its nothing.....

Anyway thanks for helping me out of my rut... Feel lots more positive today.... Mumsnet support really is super sometimes :o

it might just be those hectic months catching up with you - and this rubbish can;t make up its mind weather.

Anyway, glad to hear that today was better.

Onwards and upwards!

I was like this for ages with DS (now 23 months). I didnt think i was depressed atall coz i knew people who were and I wasnt like them and ive always been quite an outgoing bubbly person, but i got to the point where i couldnt be bothered to get dressed and was being lazy with housework and things like letting washing build up.. I put on 4 stone when i was prrgnant going from an 8 to a 14 but i didnt think this was an issue.. i started to notice i was not only lazy and tired all the time i was very snappy with ppl.. my mum the first to notice it. I went to the docs to see if they thought i was depressed and as i walked in and saw the GP i just broke down. I realised then that i was depressed and needed help. Your baby is only 7months, so its very early days still and everyone gets the baby blues and tired/cant be bothered feeling lol! I do even now lol! But if it makes u feel better, u can always go se ur GP or a Health Visitor down at the local weigh-in clinic and ask to speak to her privately and see if she thinks its normal and whether she thinks u are depressed. Its not anything to be ashamed of, i had a hard time accepting i had it, but i did eventually and nowi realise how common it is, i dont feel so alienated. Im still on my meds, and i have anxiety aswell so i take meds for that too, all of which started after having ds, anxiety of my health and ds' s health.. to the point where i get panic attacks.. its not nice but im on the up.

Take care and good luck 2u hun xx keep smiling :)