Support thread for crying babies

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I posted a desperate plea for help in chat not so long bck, have felt like posting numerous times since and hae noticed there's a fair few others on the boards. Thought maye we could all congregate here, so parents of babies with colic, reflux or just won't stop crying come on down!

Ok I'll start, ds is 18weeks, he is on gaviscon but still cries a lot and I still find every day a stuggle. It is soul destroying when he's screaming and some nights nothing helps but here are all the things I've tried in case anyone wants to know, I've got quite a repetoir!
Infacol
Gripe Water
Colief
Gaviscon
Going for a walk in the sling - this is usually very effective
Walk in the pram
Baby massage
Bath
Keep trying a bf
Bouncy chair set on highest vibrate and bounced with my foot not quite facing me but so he can still see me - good when overtired
Tigger hold
On his tummy on my lap
Wandering around the house with him
Holding him up on my shoulder and rocking back and forth
Shushing in her ear (white noise)
Putting the vacuum on
Long drive (I can't drive but this does help when I can get it)
Patting him on the back to a heartbeat rhythm
Asking someone to take him for a walk
Taking him to a dark room

I probably have more but can't think, if all else fails and I'm getting angry then outside for 5/10 minutes.
Add yours and chat with me please! It's so difficult.

It's not only me, it's not only me, it's not only me...

Fortunately we are passed this stage (remember, this too shall pass, this too shall does pass!) but keeping this bumped for you as I think it is a really great idea and no doubt others will be along to join you shortly! Someone telling you that you're not alone does help to keep it in perspective...

Argh I'm with you! My DS (#2) is 16 weeks and never. stops. crying. This morning I've had to leave him in the kitchen twice as I just can't deal with it anymore He screamed himself hoarse for about 40 minutes until I was calm enough to go and pick him up again. He was exhausted after that and let me cuddle him for a while before having a feed and thankfully going to sleep. It's awful. I feel like it's a personal attack on me, like he's saying I'm a terrible mummy. When he's not upset he's lovely, giggly and smiley but that doesn't happen very often.

I was spoilt with DS1, he was such a happy baby. I just wonder if it's something I am doing that is making #2 such an unhappy devil baby??

It is difficult not to take it personally isn't it. I know I have many times and there's still something in the back of my head telling me it's me, I'm the reason he cries so much. When it gets like that I do have to go outside and have a few minutes to myself.
Was thinking the other day that instead of how I imagined my first baby-free night, chatting to friends and going out for a drink, I'll actually go out to a field and do a primal scream! For hours!

Am thankfully past this stage now but it was absolute hell and a suport thread is a brilliant idea.

DS used to scream non-stop, he'd even break off mid feed to scream. I'd spend 2 hours getting him to sleep for him to wake up screaming 10 or 20 minutes later. 24 hours a day.

ONLY thing that worked for him was to be carried or in the sling, but I had to be moving vigourously, couldn't cuddle him sitting down or rock him gently. Swing, bouncer, pram, carseat etc all escalated the screaming.

Even in the sling it sometimes took hours. I think he was chronically overtired and probably had undiagnosed reflux or something-I saw the gp once but when they dismissed my worries I was too exhausted (physically and emotionally) to push for a diagnosis.

It gradually got better, at 6 months when he started crawling he could be put down for a few minutes at a time. When he was cruising at 8 months it got better again, he walked at 11 months and got so much happier. He was still very demanding but starting to talk led to another improvement.

Hang in there, it is so so hard but it does end.

God ds is having an awful evening. Screaming and screaming, I know it will pass but it seems never ending, it's really really bad.

I had a horredndous evening/night on fri too - had to put him upstairs in his cot screaming for 90 mins as I couldn't trust myself to hold him He just screamed and screamed all. day. long. Bit better since then thankfully.

How's your LO today? x

thanks so much ziggyf.
he's still at it. i came down for a cuppa and lots of biscuits which helped me (if not him).

the awful thing is no matter how often i tell myself as i'm rocking him that

1. he's not going to die
2. he doesn't hate me, and
3. this won't last -- these are the very thoughts that just plague me. it makes me weep.

we've started on the infacol - has anyone tried that cranio sacral whatnot, is it some kind of massage?

hi i was in this situation with my ds who is my 2nd, my dd was a brilliant baby, never really cried at all, but ds was awful, he cried none stop pretty much all day, he was diagnosed lactose intol at 4.5 months which did solve his discomfort but it was like he thought that crying and being grumpy was the norm, he would wake up smiling and then after a min it was like he thought "oh no im not supposed to be happy, i will start crying and whinging" he slowly got better and now he is 21 months and a really happy loving friendly little boy, he isnt clingy although he still does really good whinging bouts sometimes which takes me back to when he was a baby! He didnt sleep through the night until he started walking at 15 months, i just use to say over and over to myself, "im not going through this again" but now he sleeps 7.30 - 8am and 2 hours nap in the day.
So basically what im saying to you that are at the beginning that is will and does slowly get better, you will get through it together and learn what makes it easier for you.
My ds is so good now we are planning no 3, i hope were not unlucky enough to have two babies that cry like ds did!

Good Luck
x

Hi. Sorry I didn't see this thread before. I feel your pain!

Ds 1 was a dream. Ds2 is a nightmare. He has quite severe reflux and cries in terrible pain frequently. he is also chronically over tired which makes things worse. We are having a ph test on Monday and he is already on several meds.

I am a wreck.

I wouldn't have had him if I'd known how much a baby could cry. I feel so helpless.

hi there.. since i first wrote he's had some relief and i thought i should share this thought - i know there's no silver bullet but i looked at the feeding times (i'd been logging feed length etc pardon the nerdiness) and before he went all freaky the average feed was only about 10 mins,whereas for the last 2 days he's been doing average 20/25 min feeds and he does seem a bit happier..
not much use for real reflux sufferers but i just thought maybe worth sharing..