OK OK I know we shouldn't judge - so please help me process some parenting I saw on holiday

[ByThePowerOfGreyskull]

SO.
family arrive at swimming pool, 4 ladies 6 children aged between 1 and 10.
parents get themselves onto sun beds, babies stay strapped in buggies.
4 other children rampage in the swimming pool, 1 can swim 2 don't wear arm bands and can swim a little (but definately not well) little girl wearing armbands.
they went crazy swearing very loud (3 year old calling people round the pool names including mtherFcker!)
Life guard asks children to take some of the floats and toys out of the pool so she can see properly. Alot of swearing ensues and the lifeguard gives up with the kids and talks to the parents instead. They decide that she is being prejudiced against their kids - they are on holiday - why shouldnt they be allowed to enjoy themselves, - they end up shouting at her until she cries!

Thankfully a huge chap who was sat witnessing it all stood up to defend her but it was like so scarey episode from JK!

The little girl had really bad nappy rash - and when she went to ask her mum for a drink her mum put fanta into a baby bottle with a teat for her to drink. The whole thing was a nightmare and all I could think was that I felt sorry for the awfully behaved children. It just all felt so much money and no parenting skills.

I know this sounds like a nonsense post or a JK episode but I just want to be able to process it and know that the children are probably totally happy and balanced and that it really really doesn't matter.

Totally sounds like a JK episode. Feel quite sad for the children. And very angry at the parents - that poor lifegaurd :(

well you know parents like this exist....dont see the point in ripping them apart all the time tho,it happens,we all see it

I wish that there was a way of interferring without being on the recieving end of something BAD

x posts, that is just it Tiff, I have never actually seen it in RL before, it was a proper shock.

but don't give too much of your emotional energy over to thinking about it. it happens and there is nothing really that you can do about it. there will always be this type of 'parenting'.

theres no way....think it would make it worse tbh

This family werent from somewhere in the North West were they? (very distinctive accents)

The only reason I ask is that we were on a holiday a couple of years ago now and the family of a certain famous footballer turned up - they behaved almost exactly as you describe!

It's awful having to watch it, I too felt like I was sat in the JK audience!

I know ILT, it was when we were on holiday and we are now back in the uk.

they were from the northwest and it was a particularly expensive place to holiday.

It could be the same family then!

If they are the same people, their relative pays for them all to go away (without him I hasten to add!)

TBH, if they were my family, I'd pay for a one-way ticket for them

Give us a clue then Tequila.

I would say process it like this...

mind your own.

does he have potato like attributes?

Shrek??

Were you upset at the poor parenting skills, or upset that they were displaying them on your very expensive holiday?

Haha I would have been more upset that they were disturbing the peace of my expensive holiday rather than at their parenting skills!!!!
Hate comon people on holiday, alway so loud and can't help but watch them as if rl version of jk!!!!! don't get me wrong I'm common as muck (coucil flat born and raised) I just like to prentend I'm not when I go on my hols!!!!!

You can't interfer and hope nothing BAD will happen (in instances like this) - it will - as the life guard found out the hard way.

You could look at it like this I suppose -

the children were at least getting a holiday, so many children never do, in lovely sunshine, exercising and playing in the swimming pool, instead of slummped in front of the X-Box. The mother gave Fanta in a bottle with a teat - at least she had a drink for the child in hot weather.

The bad language will be picked up, even by the most proteced and virtuous of children, no matter what anyone tries to do to prevent it, so no point worrying about it because the little dahlinks will find out themselves that it gets them no where in the real world.

The nappy rash might heal quite a bit in the fresh air and sunshine .

HTH

Pleeeease tell us where this holiday destination was - was it somewhere like Jumereira Beach in Dubai?

Jumeirah Beach

definately the parenting skills, chunk, but I guess it did stand out more because it was generally a quiet place to holiday and not a massively family orientated place.

Doodlez you are absolutely right, and I also keep trying to think about the fact that they were looking after their own children rather than having nannies do it as alot of the other families there did.

Thanks, it has helped and I know I should mind my own I just cant seem to help it!

Come on - SO WHERE WAS IT? (shouts a little bit . I need to know

I'd rather have children looked after by a nanny than by parents who feed Fanta, let their child get nappy rash and keep the little ones strapped into buggies while they sunbathe.

But I like Doodlez take on this, because otherwise it's just too sad. I know what you mean about processing it - there's not judging and then there's having to accept that some children aren't getting the privileges and care that you'd like them to have, and there's nothing you can do about it.

Why is the op being so coy about where this took place?

GreySkull you need to be more selective about where you go away on holiday

Were the kids in the "big pool" or a "baby pool"???