immaturity ?

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In my ds's (11yrs) school report his teacher has commented that ds can be immature . I agree with this but dont know how to help /encourage him to act more mature . He has been bullied by other children in his class . He has no (Sn) . Any advice would be great . We have tried getting him involved in sports clubs etc but he always quits after a week or two . He wont stick to anything .
TIA

Has he started high school yet? my son started last september and he suddenly became much more mature overnight!

Maybe giving him some responsabilities ie jobs around the house to do ect could encourage him to act more mature.

Thanks websticks .

No he is going into his last year in primary school {not in the UK} & is a very bright child re school work but still fidgets & acts silly whenever other kids are around . He is not a streetwise child iykwim & i know that is my fault for being very over protective (pfb) with him but in the last 3 months i have given him small chores like unloading the dishwasher & making his own bed etc & letting him go to the shop for me (only at the end of our road) to buy milk/bread that sort of thing & he loves doing these things . Yesterday we went out with my sister & her ds(same age ) & my ds kept pretending to cry like a baby & act really silly even DN was giving him type looks . Don't know what else to do tbh & the more i asked him to stop the more he did it . He starts back in school in 2 weeks .

When he pretends to cry like a baby and act silly, what does he say when you ask him why he does that?

Hi juuule ,

He says he's just having fun , but i try not to make an issue of it while we are out & about but i always have a chat with him about this type of behaviour when we get home.

If you are having talks with him about his behaviour being less socially acceptable as he gets older then maybe that's all that's needed. As he gets older he will mature and behave differently. I'm sure he isn't the only 11yo who acts a bit 'immature' at times after all he is 11yo.

As to the not sticking at anything. I wouldn't worry about that too much either. One of my children was the same for many years until discovering something that really interested him. Just keep providing opportunities for him, encourage but don't nag.

Probably giving him a lot more responsibility might help him become more mature. Praise him for mature behaviour, ignore the silly. If he gets more attention from you for pretending to cry etc your attention will re enforce that behaviour.

Don't just give him little token chores, give him jobs that are really important, especially to him, like making his own lunch, and yours too.

Thanks juuule & overmydeadbody

Do my best not to nag as its almost guaranteed to make ds goes against us , the only thing he seems interested in is computers , he is a whizz kid on the PC & helps out the teachers in his school if they have PC troubles
overmydeadbody good point about "token" chores as up until 3 months ago ds never had to lift a finger around the house , it was actually his teacher that told me he should be helping me out at this age & that it might help to give him a little bit of responsibility & he loves to help me out now , he even asks me do i need help with anything so yes maybe making his own lunch is a good start . Wont go too far as i dont want him to grow up & think back to when mum used him for child labour