Crap mother moment

[PrettyCandles]

I just let slip to my dc that I hate cooking for them. Not the sort of thing children need to hear.

Were they even listening to you?

So tomorrow you apologize and say that you were feeling grumpy?

When I said something like that one time, they said, 'That's ok, sometimes we hate what you cook'.

LOL, Mathanxiety, how close to the bone.

Truth is, I like cooking, but this one won't eat that and that one won't eat this, and the third one will eat it but only when the moon is in Aquarius or whatever, and what's more he'll have a screaming tantrum about it.

Oh they listened. And they know I'm grumpy. We had quite a discusion about it and I explained in glorious unnecessary detail how I resented one of my pleasures in life being turned intoi a stressful and unpleasant duty, and how pissed off and fed up I was cooking for them. And when one of them asked "Are you fed up with life?" I just gave them a blunt "Yes!".

Not feeling very pleased with myself. Just the latest in a series of 44yo-toddler tantrums.

Good for you. I say. They ought to know if they are pissing you about. I think that you are a GOOD Mum for teaching your kids some empathy and respect and making them aware of the effects that their behavoir has on others. I might tell mine later

i have to cook for a husband who is trying to eat low fat to loose weight but then I find him pigging out on crap later.

A 3 YO DD who picks out the protein and refuses to eat the rest.

A 1 YO DS who flings it around the room and is not at all impressed, even with my Annabel Carmel type creations.

Myself, 35 weeks pregnant and can't seem to breath when I eat and after about 4 mouthfuls can't eat the rest.

It is a nightnare.

You think so? I don't know.

I don't think that little children need to know that they are responsible for their parent's unhappiness.

Well, I don't think it's going quite as far as implying they are responsible for your happiness, but even a young child can be taught that you shouldn't be rude when someone does something for you. I think I once asked DD, who was a very picky eater and quick to pass judgement on meals if she would like it if I took a picture she had made for me and threw it into the bin, and she understood what I was getting at.