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7 year old DS - bossy/bad loser - help!

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muriel76 · 11/08/2010 17:30

My DS1 is 7 and is in general a lovely lad, laid back and easy going, much easier than his little brother in many ways.

Except....he lives and breathes football. I try to divert him onto other things at times but he has learnt from his dad and I guess is a typical boy in that way.

But he is such a poor loser!! He wants to be in charge of the whole game and have the last say on everything from penalties to hand balls! He gets incredibly worked up and will easily be in tears about it.

I have just left the park a bit earlier than my friends because he was basically making an idiot of himself and me! He fell on the floor in tears at one point because he had let a goal in and there was no reasoning with him.

All the younger children were playing nicely while he made a complete scene.

My question really is, how do I help him to chill out and be more of a team player? He plays footie at school every lunch time and if he is behaving like this then I do fear for him a bit, no-one is going to want to play with him I don't imagine as he veers between bossy and a hysterical mess!

I would be really so grateful for any thoughts. I have tried to talk to him and explain but he takes that as a telling off and won't listen.

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atah · 11/08/2010 22:07

I have the same problem with my DS age 9 he has slightly impoved since he was 7 but is still a long way off other kids his age when it comes to competetiveness, team-spirit and losing with grace.
I hope someone replies with some magic advice as I have tried everything with little success and have witnessed other kids not allowing him to play as he is a spoil-sport.
Sorry I havent got the answer but hope someone else does..............

muriel76 · 12/08/2010 17:27

I hope so too!!

Have you found your son has 'grown out' of it himself, or have you had to keep drumming it into him to see a change?

It drives me nuts so I can see why other kids won't want to put up with it!

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FranSanDisco · 12/08/2010 17:37

Oh this is my ds 7 yo as well. He will be 8 yo in October. He is very competitive and such a bad loser. He can be heard crying from across the pitch because he's been fowled and not given a free kick or whatever. He's getting better thank god but both dh and I have had to be quite tough talking with him over the past few months about it - not sympathising but telling him to get on with it Blush. I think children do mature emotionally quite a bit from around 7 yo and even his teacher commented at the end of term that she has noticed an improvement Wink.

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atah · 12/08/2010 20:51

DS has probably improved a bit due to our constant nagging but its heartbreakig to see his friendships fall apart as other kids can't bear to pay with him.
this summer we have tried a new tack - as soon as he starts moaning/getting cross/ spoiling the game we say "this is not fun any more I'm not playing" (as another kid would) it will take a while to change a 9 year olds ways but I hope it can be done!
Still would like to hear any other good ideas as it seems to be a big problem for lots of otherwise well balanced kids.

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