more on car seats - dd in other people's cars

[Sugarmag]

As shocking as it is when complete strangers fail to use car seats, how would you feel if your friend deliberately ignored your request to use a car seat when taking your child in their car??!!

On Sunday I told dd that one of her friend's mums would be picking her up from a birthday party. DD then told us that whenever she goes in that car she sits in the middle of the back seat with a seat belt but no car seat (she ALWAYS has a car seat or booster seat in our own cars so this was a big deal to her). So I texted my friend and offered her the use of my own booster seat for dd. She said she didn't need it so I figured she must have gotten another seat. Except when dd got home from the party (I wasn't there at the time!) she told me there was still no car seat. I'm really really angry and dd is supposed to go in this car again tomorrow and I don't know what to do!

Why did she think she didn't need it? Can you not pick her up yourself?

I don't know why she thought she didn't need it! I thought by offering her mine it was pretty clear I wanted her to use one.

The birthday parties aren't the problem though - yes I can pick dd up myself. But I have a very tight schedule on a Friday and can't quite get to dd's nursery in time to pick her up. So before this thing with the car seat happened I had arranged for my friend to pick dd up for me on Fridays - that's every friday from now on so I"m going to have to say something.

I think you'll just have to insist she takes it, I know I would.

Think you need to be clearer, does her own dd use a booster seat? Not everyone reads between the lines, so she may not have read from your text that you were saying you wanted your dd to use a booster. How old are your dd's?

booster aren't expensive- why not buy her one for dd's use, if it is a regular arrangement?

DD is 4 1/2 - and her dd is always in a proper car seat! In fact that's the other thing that bothered me. If I ever had to have someone else child in my car and I was short of a car seat I would put the OTHER child in a car seat and have my own go without!

I don't think I need to buy her a booster seat - I can easily leave mine in the nursery coat room on a Friday morning. It's a case of making sure she uses it.